Health visitor

Is it normal for a health visitor to do a home visit months before baby is even born ? This is my third baby and I never had this with my first two the letter says they want to get to know everyone in the household and check I feel supported etc surly I would talk to the midwife if I had any questions regarding my feelings? Just feel it's really condescending and kind of like being checked up on ? Thanks in advance

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This isn’t something I’ve been offered, and I’ve not heard of this happening before. But that may be dependent on location and their systems?

My area didn’t offer this in my first pregnancy due to covid and staffing levels but they just phoned to check in and introduce themselves. I haven’t heard from them this time round though, I don’t even hear from them regarding my 2.5 year old, so I’m not expecting anything.

I had a health visitor visit me a while before baby was born, felt like a normal thing rather than anything to be concerned about! Maybe it’s to do with where you live?

I think it must be to do with area because we moved here a year ago and never had this in either places I lived previously, just wanted to see if other people had the same as I had never heard of it before:)

With mine, she just popped over, had a cup of tea, asked how i was feeling etc, felt like she was introducing herself as a main point of contact post birth tbh!

My last pregnancy I just had a phone call. Although covid would have still been a precaution. I haven’t heard anything from my health visitor in regards to this pregnancy so not sure if it common to have them out to your house.

It could be like others have said different areas have different practices. Are your other children in the age range to still need a health visitor visit? If yes, maybe that’s why she said household as they don’t have a relationship already with you and your children.

My children are 9 and 13 and new to the area so it's possibly that plus things may have changed since my older kids were born :)

We had a home visit from the health visitor yesterday and are expecting LO in December. She said they were visiting early as I’d been having some counselling with the perinatal mental health team so they wanted to check in & make sure we were prepared etc :)

I had one because I have experience with anxiety so was referred to the mental health team just to make sure I’m doing okay so that’s why I did!

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