Telling family and friends

Hey! How do you guys deal with not telling friends and family about your pregnancy (first trimester). I don't consider myself superstitious or anything but it's sort of killing me not being able to tell some of the people I speak with on a daily basis (work friend - currently off work and unable to tell her why (long story ahah). Any tips ? 😢

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I’d honestly recommend telling the closest couple of people (parents or a best friend too?) as I knew I wanted a support network looking out for me. I’m a high risk pregnancy and I knew I couldn’t get away without letting a few people know with various social occasions coming up etc too. I just think that if anything was to happen, it’s easier with them already within the know! We’re just not telling wider family and friends til we’ve had the 12 week scan but I think a small support base would be good for anyone x

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So just tell them.
I didn't want anyone to knows but coincidentally they all find out and it was such a relief.

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The way I see it is if you were to tell them if something was to go wrong, tell them your news.
First time round we didn’t tell many people and then had a miscarriage. This time we’ve told people from 4 weeks and the support I’ve had is unreal. Everyone is rooting for us. We’re now 9+2 and scan showed all good things.

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I haven't told anyone other than my husband and kids. I am a high risk pregnancy and 10 weeks today. I am due a scan tomorrow, as I had some very minor spotting last week. If this scan goes ok then I plan on telling my mum straight after as I'm desperate to talk to someone about it!

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If you want to tell people, then do :). At the end of the day you telling people isn’t going to change the outcome - but by telling people you are guaranteed to get support if the worst were to happen, and you’ll have people to celebrate with :)

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Just tell them if you really want to. All the people I have told are the people who would need to know that I had a miscarriage if it did happen (people I work closely with every day etc) as I would need their understanding x

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Just tell them. Every pregnancy is warranted and should be shared with whoever you want at what stage. We told all out family very early on this time, as last time we had a MC and it was so hard telling everyone and we wanted the support and positivity this time round.

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I told my family, my partner’s family and a few close friends. They’re very happy and supportive. My family and my partner’s family recently just had a few babies. The advices that I’ve been receiving are amazing. I do suggest you tell at least your parents.

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