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Hey good morning mamas !
So I’ve been out of school since 2009 and I just recently enrolled in a community college for culinary arts. Idk if I’m the only one but my anxiety is high lol and I’m scared as hell cause I’m looking at my English 101 class I think it was and I have so many papers to right and I have to participate in weekly discussions and I have to critique someone else’s writing. I’m so not good at this. Anyone dealing with going to school after a long period of time, have several kids to juggle also and just have mom brain 😩😩
Don’t judge me or say mean things. It took me a lot of courage to go back to school and better myself.

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I was out of school for 10 years before deciding to go back. I also dropped out multiple times prior and never had an Interest in school. Funny enough my first class once i did enroll back was English 1A, which maybe is the English course your enrolled in? The one that is transferable? But regardless, you DO got this. English is easy and those papers sound like a lot but they really are not 🙂 community college wants you to pass and graduate. Start with just that one course and add another next semester. Focus your efforts in making that one class s great experience. I started at a community college and I am now in grad school having already written MANY papers including a thesis. That first English class was my foundation to the great writer i am now. I love writing papers. I promise you’ll find it easier than you think 🙂

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Hey, I just wanted to let you know that you can do this!!

It helps if you have someone to watch the kids (esp if any are little) while you do homework. It also helps to do any homework you can during free time you might have between classes (unless it’s only enough to walk to the next class).

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Same boat! I graduated from college in 2012 and just started back for a post grad cert this year. It was daunting at first but I'm heading into 2nd semester now and it's easier than you think it is! Stay organized with a calendar and check in every other night to make sure you get the course work done. You can do it!

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Everything will be okay, youve got this. Im in school too, taking 6 classes right now. I have the worst anxiety. I know some schools do offer extra help with writing, maybe check to see what resources your school has that can help

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When writing always remember to utilize your free time. You have a 30 minute break take 10 to relax take 20 to research or write a bit. After the kids are in bed try to write a couple sentences. They usually give you time in advance to figure your topic, research and have the skeleton on your essay written. Once the skeleton is done you can relax a bit and just edit/amplify it. Alway pace yourself and know when you can take the time to do what you have to. Weekly discussions are just your thoughts. And to critique someone elses writing is almost the same as critiquing someone's dish. English and writing is all about your opinion and an opinion is neither wrong or right. You got this!

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I’m working full time and just started a part time masters degree. Definitely feeling the imposter syndrome after over a decade out of education.

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Your not alone I graduated in 2010 , was out of school until 2019 when I decided to go for my masters after my first son it’s an online school and I’m still not done because I’ve had to postpone it multiple times and finally will be starting again in October and I’m hoping to finish !!

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Yea, I went back to school when I was 6 months pregnant back in 2020. I just got my Associates degree this summer. Best advice? Get a dry erase calendar and write down all the due dates for a four week period.

As you complete and submit each task wipe it off the board. I know I can get overwhelmed in my head but when I write things out and can see what I need to do, it takes the pressure off. Plus, each time I wipe something off the board I feel like I accomplished something which boosted my confidence.

You can do it! Other moms have done it and you children will be so proud of you ❤️

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