My partners family always wants me to bring my daughter whose 5mos over to their house but they’re not willing to come over! It’s ridiculous. They want me to travel far ( an hour or so) to their house and my partner thinks this is ok. He doesn’t ask them to come over it’s annoying me tbh if I don’t take her to theirs they won’t come to see her at all. He asked me today if I could bring our daughter to them on Sunday and we leave her there and we go out and I said no bexause firstly she doesn’t really know them well and secondly I’m tired of travelling to their house all the time with all her bags and formula and stuff I just want to relax😒😒
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Just one way of looking at it (I don’t know the back story of your families dynamics)
A good way to get them to come over to yours is to invite them over formally for dinner or something, (even if u just order food in) this will help build relations between you and them
Our parents generation want to feel like they are wanted too - so inviting them for lunch/dinner will make them feel like you actually want their company/presence.
If you treat your partners family like your own, your partner will do the same for your family, sometimes that means going out of our way, it is hard travelling with a baby and the stuff u have to pack - but they will appreciate your effort and most likely welcome you with love.
Who knows it may be a nice little road trip for you and your partner and you may just end up enjoying yourself as long as you have a positive attitude towards the trip
Hope I haven’t offended you by this response x

You have choices, and if the situation is annoying you, then you're making the wrong choice, stand up for yourself and your daughter, they should be taking more responsibility to come visit rather than making you travel with her, tell them youll come visit once a week or do alternate visits or something cus youre exhausted and that if they want to see her more they can come to you, my boyfriends family is the same

People show their true colours after a while, especially when a baby is involved

Oh I'm also hoping to not offend you by the way, I'm just annoyed with my situation too, and even more for you cus I obviously know how it feels x

That’s a lot to ask of a new mother. I absolutely wouldn’t be doing that a lot and it’s a two way street they need to make the effort too!

What was it like before the baby? Are they elderly or just lazy?