Honestly? Replies pls - ranting

My partners family always wants me to bring my daughter whose 5mos over to their house but they’re not willing to come over! It’s ridiculous. They want me to travel far ( an hour or so) to their house and my partner thinks this is ok. He doesn’t ask them to come over it’s annoying me tbh if I don’t take her to theirs they won’t come to see her at all. He asked me today if I could bring our daughter to them on Sunday and we leave her there and we go out and I said no bexause firstly she doesn’t really know them well and secondly I’m tired of travelling to their house all the time with all her bags and formula and stuff I just want to relax😒😒

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Just one way of looking at it (I don’t know the back story of your families dynamics)

A good way to get them to come over to yours is to invite them over formally for dinner or something, (even if u just order food in) this will help build relations between you and them

Our parents generation want to feel like they are wanted too - so inviting them for lunch/dinner will make them feel like you actually want their company/presence.

If you treat your partners family like your own, your partner will do the same for your family, sometimes that means going out of our way, it is hard travelling with a baby and the stuff u have to pack - but they will appreciate your effort and most likely welcome you with love.

Who knows it may be a nice little road trip for you and your partner and you may just end up enjoying yourself as long as you have a positive attitude towards the trip

Hope I haven’t offended you by this response x

You have choices, and if the situation is annoying you, then you're making the wrong choice, stand up for yourself and your daughter, they should be taking more responsibility to come visit rather than making you travel with her, tell them youll come visit once a week or do alternate visits or something cus youre exhausted and that if they want to see her more they can come to you, my boyfriends family is the same

People show their true colours after a while, especially when a baby is involved

Oh I'm also hoping to not offend you by the way, I'm just annoyed with my situation too, and even more for you cus I obviously know how it feels x

That’s a lot to ask of a new mother. I absolutely wouldn’t be doing that a lot and it’s a two way street they need to make the effort too!

What was it like before the baby? Are they elderly or just lazy?

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Hidden veg mince pasty 🥐

Grated courgette and carrot mixed in with onion and mince and a little bit of tomato puree. 😋

My daughter has become a little fussy and prefers anything she can hold so made these today for lunch! She’s 14 months old 🩷

Appropriate age to go out

I am the kind of person who struggles with being at home all day, not good for my mental health. I have a 1 month old and I am trying to start doing things with her. Like going ti the park, running errands. But people seem surprised and kind of judgy that I am out with the baby at her age. Is this wrong?

Am I wrong for getting upset?

Long story short. My cousin made a group chat for bridesmaids and groomsman to plan out bachelorette party.
I sent one text about finding a sitter and my cousin texts me to stop saying stuff like that cause no one gives a shit? As if no one else is gonna mention their personal lives during planning a trip of 10 people?
I. Put the screenshots. I got so hurt I told her just count me out if the mention of my kid offends everyone.

Roles between a sthm and a working partner?

I started wondering if our arrangement makes any sense. When I was pregnant I saw a cute video of a couple where they sleep seperately, the mom takes care of the baby during the night, the husband wakes up early in the morning takes over so the woman sleeps a bit before he gets to work I suggest this arrangement to my husband and we both liked it. Since I gave birth to my 22 month old boy, we are sleeping separately, I’m taking care of everything. My toddler still wakes up during the night every two hours on average. I wake up in the morning to make his breakfast and drive him to the train station and pick him up later in the day. I clean and cook and take care of my boy, with no appreciation or thank you. If I say I’m tired it turns he’d say what are you doing all day or he’d remind me of how he’s paying for everything. I am emotionally and physically exhausted and I don’t feel this is how a team should work.

Having a bit of a sad day

I don’t know if I want advice or just to get it out a bit.
I had a bit of a rubbish Mother’s Day, and then today had a falling out with my mum.
Very long story short, me and my partner turn 30 this year and were thinking of taking a short trip (2-3 days max) just the two of us to celebrate. Our son will be 2 by then.
We had discussed leaving our son with our parents and them sort of splitting having him (eg. My mum has him one night and my boyfriend’s mum has him the other two nights, or whatever we collectively decide on). They are both happy to do this.

Yesterday my MIL was pushing my son’s pram and got distracted and pushed it off the pavement into the road, a car missed the pram by about 5 seconds. This upset me a lot.

Me and my partner discussed this later on and I said it worries me leaving our son with her in case she does something like that. We also discussed the fact that my mum pays very little attention to our son when she’s with him and is absolutely glued to her phone (looking at social media etc) so we might just take him on holiday with us.

Then this morning I had a chat with my mum and told her we would probably just take our son away with us. She asked why and I mentioned the pram thing with my MIL so she said she would just have him- so I thought it was time to mention that when she’s with him she is glued to her phone and gets distracted and that it just worries me a bit. (For reference she’s been watching him before and because she’s been on her phone he’s managed to get half way up her stairs.)
She absolutely lost it at me. Called me rude etc.

I try so hard not to upset anyone and I’m just so so fed up now. I just wish it was simple and we could trust them to take care of him but they are both away with the fairies.

I want to talk to my mum but i don’t know how to approach it now. Just feel like i need a big cry.

Sending my baby to nursery

My daughter is just shy of 6 months old and I'm already feeling horrendously guilty about putting her in childcare for 5 days a week (2 days nursery, 3 at a childminder 8am to 4/5pm) when she's just over 13 months!

Right now, she goes to bed by latest half 7 so I really don't know how I'm going to handle going from being with her 24/7 to only seeing her for max. 2.5hours a day!

Does anyone else feel like this? Does it get any easier? If it wasn't for how expensive everything is nowadays, I'd be a SAHM in a heartbeat!