Some opinions would be appreciated!

Currently in a rut, other half keeps leaving and staying at his mums if I disagree with what he’s doing. All summer he has wanted (and had) all weekend every weekend to himself. Cricket club all day Saturday then the pub after till 12ish then cricket club again Sunday. But because he’s home for 12 on a Saturday night he thinks this every weekend while I am stuck in with the kids shouldn’t be a problem and it’s me causing the issues. All the friends he’s out with also have kids at home. I also take the kids out somewhere every Saturday and Sunday without him. Is this what men do??

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I don’t think that’s how it’s supposed to look. Well at least we take our child together on a weekends Saturday and V Sunday we all go to church and then somewhere out if we feel like. Must be very hard on you to be all alone on that

No, that’s what boys do, not men.

Every weekend is absolutely ridiculous. Either explain to him that it’s too frequent or start doing the same. Wake up before him and just head out and don’t come back till 12.

I’d love to but he won’t have the baby either, she’s still too young for him he can’t do it he says. Iv Been out once since she was born and had to have my mum babysit x

If you are in this group I assume your baby is 1 yo. How come is she too young to spend a day with her father? How old is he? He really sounds very immature and that’s the source of all the issues. If he is running to his mum every time maybe you could ask her to have a word with him.

He is 38, just says she’s still a baby he doesn’t know what to do. He doesn’t listen to his mother either

Well, that’s very convenient for him since she will still be little for a while. Tell him you can show him what to do, but it sounds like he is just looking for excuses and avoiding responsibility. It won’t get any better until you start demanding changes and sticking to it. This is not an okay or normal behavior especially at that age. No other advice really, hope it gets better for you.

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I'm struggling. Have been for a while. I've had one break from parenting my daughter, that was for 3 hours in December when I left her with her dad.

She's 14 months old and I'm just tired. I've done every night by myself. He's out of bed at 4am and doesn't get home until 7-9pm. He drives for work, very physically tiring.
On the weekends he was doing 6 days, one weekend day off, but now has both off.

He doesn't sit on the floor and play with her, he doesn't read to her because he says she doesn't have the patience.
He will pick her up and hold her whilst he's cooking.

Recently I've been "snappy" with him.
He got back from the mechanic last weekend, she was getting onto the sofa and he put his headphones on and started to watch Netflix on his phone.
The same day I told him I was going to run her bath and to watch her whilst she was still eating, he fell asleep on the sofa.

Today he went to football after going shopping, so was out 1-3 and then from 4-8.
He got back and I was snappy.

"I don't get why you're so snappy with me"

I said - Probably because I haven't had a break since December.

"Do you think I don't know you haven't had a break. I haven't had a break", "I just won't go to work, I'll sit at home all day".

Then "do you think I like not having a connection to my child"... But that's on him? He never sits to play with her. He "doesn't see the point". He's stated that this age is boring to him.

Since she's been born, he has been to a friend's once a month. Football - He stopped going for 7months, but has been the last two weekends.

Are these not breaks?

He does do the washing/washing up/cooking/vacuuming when I haven't had a chance to; but I'm the one in charge of feeding her, naps/bedtime, teeth brushing, hair brushing, baths, dressing her, making sure she has the right shoes, appointments etc. Everything falls on me.

If your partner works ridiculously long hours, how much do they look after your child? Do you ever get a break?

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