Toddler scared to poo on the toilet!

I’ve heard that getting them to blow bubbles while using the toilet is a good distraction and naturally gets them to push without them being as aware. Maybe worth a try? Good luck 🤞

My daughter was the exact same. And do you know what helped? We just held her so tightly so she felt safe and reassured her it was ok & let her go in her underwear and gave her soooo much praise for it, until about a week later she decided to do it in the potty all on her own!
Realising a poo is sooo scary to them compared to a wee.
She was dry at 2 & is now 3.5 years old and we’ve had no issue what so ever!
Hope this helps xx

I'm a Hypnotherapist and just seen a little boy, age 5, who has had the same....
The parents have struggled for 2 years to get help and answers.

Dr's say it usually happens when they have a particular hard poo and it rips or tears them a little and then it is really painful and they get scared.

Whilst your baby is too young for hypnotherapy until at least age 5, I can recommend what I did for this little boy. Obviously I worked with his unconscious mind, not the conscious mind, so that will make a bit of a difference, but you can create your own metaphor to help her poo in the toilet.

You can tell a story about rabbits or a bear or a something who struggled to poo and how they were scare Dit will hurt, but how they did so well before. Or can do so well in future.
You can give them an object, that fits in with the story, to help them cope. Maybe something magical. Giving them strength, confidence and motivation evertytime they have a good poo in the loo.

Or courage before they need to go.

And build into the story about the importance of relaxing. The more they relax, the easier it would be for them to just let go. Let it easily slide right out of them. And sometimes the4y2 need to push a bit, but it won't hurt and they will find it easy. And dmto help, they can drink lots of water during the day...

Hope this helps. Good luck!

Hello. You may need to speak to gp about gentle medication to make sure she doesnt get constipated. This website is very good. https://eric.org.uk/supporting-children-to-feel-more-comfortable-around-poo/#:~:text=To%20reduce%20a%20fear%20of,it%20messing%20clothing%20and%20equipment.
You could get some toilet toys that she only plays with on the toilet and so much praise is essential. You can also get books that help them understand more about pooing in the toilet. There is often some shame attached to it, even for young children, so its important to try and make it normalised if possible. Best of luck.