Mamas who dont send babies to daycare

Hey, are there any mamas here who chose not to send their babies to daycare? I was curious to know what your reasons are and if you ever worry about your kids not getting enough exposure compared to kids who go to daycare?

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We almost didn't send our daughter. She was 3.5 before she went into daycare. We decided to do it because we felt she wasn't getting enough exposure to other children. Physically, emotionally and in the sick way.

She got pnuemonia from a party last year & we decided she needed to be around more children and their icks so that she could build up her immunity.

She changed soooo much when we sent her in. Her vocabulary and her confidence increased 100x. Now her 2 .5 year old brother is in daycare & he's doing amazing.

It also helped with her transition to JK this year.

I have 4 and we have never done daycare except for literally 1 month for each of my 2 oldest daughters before they entered jk. My eldest are 11, 13 and 4yr old boy who just started jk and my 15month old daughter.
I completely understand that people have different reasons for doing daycare mostly because they have no choice due to work. I also recognize that my husband and I have been very fortunate to be able to handle the kids without needing daycare. However, personally I want to spend as much time with my kids for the first 4yrs of their lives before school starts. For me, if I sent them to daycare then my time during the week would be soo limited with them. Again, I totally recognize the need for daycare but I will always chose no daycare if I had to do it again. My kids had absolutely no issues starting school, they all thrived in everyway possible.Everyone has different experiences for sure but for us no daycare has always been the right choice. Goodluck.

I don’t do daycare because I’ve heard a lot of bad experiences, plus I’m just not comfortable with having others watch my sons… I’m fortunate enough to be a stay at home mom and don’t need to use daycare

Thanks for sharing your experience. I feel you sent your daughter around the right age where their immunity is established and they dont fall sick frequently after joining daycare. My friend told me that she sent her first child at age 1 and he would fall sick every other week for months. So she decided to wait for her second child and sent him at age 2.5 and barely fell sick. I wish I could do the same and send my baby late, but work beckons 😭

Thanks for responding, wow I'm so impressed by listening to your experience ❤️, 4 kids wow, you're so blessed and must have infinite patience 🤣. I WISH I could hold on to my baby for a little bit longer, max I could do was extend my mat leave by a few months. Any tips for a FTM?

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I really hate to come out here and tell my business about what’s going on with my life in my kids, but I had no choice

I just came back from a parent teachers conference meeting and they telling me that my second daughter, who just turned eight about a week ago that she barely know how to read and she has speech problems… I already feel like shit because it’s not that I’m doing my job. It’s because I worked a lot, and and every time, me and my first oldest daughter, trying to teach you how to read, she gets insecure and thinking that we making fun of her, but we’re not!! I felt like a shitty mother I don’t know what to do.

Mother

The house is quiet.
Finally, a moment to myself.
I sit on the couch, expressing milk for his next feed.
Time circles my mind.
Do I have enough time to write this?
Should I sleep instead?
It’s getting late.
I should be grateful.
I should be present.
I should… I should.
The guilt.
The intrusive thoughts.
The disconnection from self.
The robotic washing of bottles, clothes, and dishes.
Then the question returns.
Do I have enough time for me?
What me?
Who am I?
Where am I?
I miss her.
I miss me.
Who have I become?
I have become a mother.
I am everything to this little human who will one day call me mum.
His life depends on me with every waking moment.
I give.
And I give.
Then he smiles.
And suddenly I see him
the little human I have nourished with tired eyes,
with time,
with love stretched beyond capacity.
Sometimes I leave to rest.
To breathe.
But even then my mind returns home.
I should be there.
I should be caring for my baby.
Is this normal?
Am I normal?
I feel myself unbecoming the woman I once knew so well.
They say this time is sacred.
And it is.
But it goes fast.
Maybe because we are not fully here in these early days.
We are surviving.
Living on autopilot.
Days blur together.
Until suddenly he shows me something new —
a smile,
a look,
a tiny trick he has learned.
And that moment is priceless.
His beautiful smile.
His big, beautiful eyes.
He is beginning his life
as I share mine
to keep him thriving.
A sacred sacrifice.
A whirlwind.
A shift in reality.
Who am I?
I am mother.

Am I overthinking this ?

Am I wrong for feeling some kind of way from my husband wanting to put my 2 yo daughter in daycare he always brings it up. But mind you I’m a stay at home mom. And my daughter does learn now she’s not getting no 3-4hr learning session but the thing is she knows all her alphabets, she knows her numbers from 1-20, and she knows a good amount of animals, and she even knows a few sign language that she caught on from Mrs. Rachelle at 1 yo ! She’s very smart and picks up on alot of words pretty fast. But knowing my daughter she doesn’t have a long attention span so I do what I know how she’ll learn best, she learn through music, we watch videos, and I physically show her and question her. But sometimes I feel offended when he brings up she should be in daycare around other kids learning as if I’m not with her everyday .

My mil is the reason I see my husband as less of a man

LA little back story, my mil got a new bf last year and a month into dating they insisted he be called grandpa. Fast forward to a few months ago mother-in-law and her boyfriend‘s behavior has turned nasty after father-in-law has come back into the picture. After mother-in-law and her boyfriend’s behavior at family events, such as my son’s baptism, my Christmas party and my father’s Christmas party, I told my husband to tell his mom that her boyfriend is no longer to be called Grandpa. fast-forward three months and he still hasn’t told her because he doesn’t want to upset her feelings. Now her bf wants to bring his son over to my house to meet my kids or his “grandkids” and they didn’t ask my opinion. I told my husband how I feel about it and he’s not telling her no because he doesn’t want to upset her. I’m starting to see my husband as less of a man because of his mom and putter her above me.

Am I over reacting? What should I do?

Correcting eating with hands?

My 1yo eats with utensils perfectly fine, my 3yo is capable of doing it too but doesn't like to and prefers to use her hands. I don't know how to correct this at home without it sounding lowkey like nonsense. We have finger foods, other cultures eat "messy" foods with their hands, we teach to eat until your tummy feels comfortable so idk how to explain that even tho eating with her hands is the most comfortable that she isn't supposed to?? Because even as an adult I don't see a problem with it unless it'd be disrespectful to the chef/host 😅 Do I just say we need to practice at home just in case a future chef/host would be offended by it? 😭

Am I wrong for getting upset?

To make a long story short, we were added to a group chat for all the bridesmaids and groomsmen to plan the bachelor party to go to Vegas. So very been boiling about this all day.
I sent one message about finding a babysitter for my kid, and she messaged me privately with a very backhanded comment that I should not discuss anything regarding my son because her husband’s friends do not give a shit ….. as if I am supposed to cater to their interests…. This is my cousin by the way, she only has me, and her sister for family at her wedding the rest are his family and friends.