Feeling Alone

Please help me yall im tired of taking care of my son by myself I’m tired of begging his dad to help me he always says he’ll be home but never comes back home. I didn’t lay down and make this little boy on my own I’m so sick of being stressed I’m sick of being up by myself. He was so different when our son was born now I don’t even know who I’m looking at anymore. He say he doesn’t wanna be home cause the house dirty but won’t help me clean it up. I’m exhausted…. I can’t take it anymore.

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I’m so sorry you’re going through this mamas send hugs! Have you seeked help like from your family or his family? I know he should be the one but it’s a village and maybe family can help. I can’t say I’m on the same boat but my bf works nights and when he’s here he’s sleeping so I pretty much do it by myself plus I clean and cook on top of it all and he used to sigh or complain when I’d ask for help but I told him to suck it because he’s his child too. Things have gotten better but there are some days that make me say fuck it to everything and just leave but communication has helped us a lot and praising him for the things he does do instead of all the stuff he isn’t doing. I know you feel like you can do it all on your own but just because we can it doesn’t mean we should 🥺 I’m always here to talk if you need 💕 keep your head up 🫶🏼

I'm so sorry you're going through that. You and your kiddo deserve better. Men will never ever understand how tough mommahood can be. Mentally, physically, emotionally exhausted all the time, touched out by baby, etc. Have you asked for help from family or friends? It might be time to have a real come-to-jesus conversation with your guy. Tell him you're exhausted, tell him to decide if he wants to be a father or not. Are yall married?

I’ve tried talking to him he doesn’t understand we aren’t married our baby was unplanned but he is still loved, I always talk to him about it but he always reverts back to his behaviors

I talk to his family I ask for help from mine but I can’t always ask due to them having their own lives, it sucks

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Partner works incredibly long hours, how much do they help out?

I'm struggling. Have been for a while. I've had one break from parenting my daughter, that was for 3 hours in December when I left her with her dad.

She's 14 months old and I'm just tired. I've done every night by myself. He's out of bed at 4am and doesn't get home until 7-9pm. He drives for work, very physically tiring.
On the weekends he was doing 6 days, one weekend day off, but now has both off.

He doesn't sit on the floor and play with her, he doesn't read to her because he says she doesn't have the patience.
He will pick her up and hold her whilst he's cooking.

Recently I've been "snappy" with him.
He got back from the mechanic last weekend, she was getting onto the sofa and he put his headphones on and started to watch Netflix on his phone.
The same day I told him I was going to run her bath and to watch her whilst she was still eating, he fell asleep on the sofa.

Today he went to football after going shopping, so was out 1-3 and then from 4-8.
He got back and I was snappy.

"I don't get why you're so snappy with me"

I said - Probably because I haven't had a break since December.

"Do you think I don't know you haven't had a break. I haven't had a break", "I just won't go to work, I'll sit at home all day".

Then "do you think I like not having a connection to my child"... But that's on him? He never sits to play with her. He "doesn't see the point". He's stated that this age is boring to him.

Since she's been born, he has been to a friend's once a month. Football - He stopped going for 7months, but has been the last two weekends.

Are these not breaks?

He does do the washing/washing up/cooking/vacuuming when I haven't had a chance to; but I'm the one in charge of feeding her, naps/bedtime, teeth brushing, hair brushing, baths, dressing her, making sure she has the right shoes, appointments etc. Everything falls on me.

If your partner works ridiculously long hours, how much do they look after your child? Do you ever get a break?

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My daughter’s 1st birthday was Thursday and nobody wished her a happy birthday from her dads family but his mom watched his story. Should I put my foot down and set boundaries for them to accept accountability or should I just let them stay on that side for as long as they want and not worry about it?

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