MIL comparing

Conversations between me and my MIL

MIL: Is baby sleeping through the night?
Me: no she still wakes up x amount of times
MIL: I NEVER had problems with Christian (my husband) sleeping.
Me: ok
MIL: is baby crawling yet
Me: shows video of baby trying to crawl
MIL: Christian was walking at 8 months you know
MIL: when can baby stay the night at my house
Me: idk maybe 1 year old
MIL: Christian was staying with his grandmother all the time at this age
Why does she feel the need to compare everything between my baby and her 30 year old son 🙄

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lol 😂 she basically is saying her son is the best cus he’s her son, everyone else’s son can’t compare 😂

@Adnil it’s been 30 years she needs to move on 😂

This is literally my MIL!! Comparing everything but for what reason??
And my partner doesn’t hear how bloody annoying it is!
I can’t even take my boy to the beach without her telling me that she used to do that too with her boys 😂

Some mothers be obsessed with their sons, it’s giving creepy

Wait until you get the conversation of ‘she takes after me with xyz. I was like that as a baby.’ They forget who gave birth and that the babies mother has a family too 😂 drives me crackers!!

I get this too. My favourite is when she contradicts herself. I just do a lot of ‘mmmhmmm, ok’ because she doesn’t listen/care to hear a response. Some people just like to talk and talk and that’s how they feel involved.

‘(Husbands name) had colic and cried and cried’

Our baby cries for like 2 minutes as it’s close to bedtime and she’s tired.

‘What’s wrong, why is she crying? Is she sick, a tummy ache? (Husbands name) slept so well, never cried’

🙄 it’s been 44 years….I think she just remembers things with rose coloured glasses and doesn’t read the room (the room being me not wanting her unsolicited commentary 😂)

I’m just empathizing with the original post 🤷🏼‍♀️ We’re here to support each other.

what? I cant understand most of what you're trying to say? Comparison stuff may be mild but it's still super annoying and seems to be a MIL thing, where MILs seem to see their own boys and parenting through rose tinted glasses and just offer unsolicited nonsense advice. My MIL always contradicts herself with advice.
Also anyone I know with a girl says they are much harder work than boys so not sure what that's about.
I think standards for raising children years ago were different. People know much more about development and behaviour now and I think put themselves under more pressure to do the best for their children and keep them safe. Years ago kids were left to their own devices a lot more or left to cry and self soothe more and kids allowed out all day without supervision. GPs of today would advise things that we now know are completely unsafe such as sleeping practices so a lot of things are very different.
My MIL also cant read a room and sometimes its exhausting

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My friend is over from another country but I don't feel like leaving the house

One of my old friend's is visiting where I currently live and we agreed to meet up today but I feel so tired and exhausted from everything that's been going on with me. I feel if I meet her I'm going to end up having another breakdown from the exhaustion which I have been having often. I'm just thinking about how I need to rest to be able to deal with my toddler and go back to work on Monday without feeling like I need another weekend. I'm torn on what to do so I need you guys to help me decide

Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

My 2 year old won’t eat nothing but snacks

Is this normal ? He won’t even try anything I eat .. he really only like pizza fries and spaghetti… nuggets and snacks bananas some other fruit but like anything else he won’t eat if try but I don’t want to force him I’m just I feel like bad I mean he isn’t losing weight I breastfeed mostly still

People telling you your baby is hungry..

I know people don’t always mean it in a bad way and are trying to relate, but when people say my baby is hungry when chewing his hands. I feed him regularly. He eats pretty much every 2 hours. He isn’t hungry, he just loves chewing and exploring his hands. Or they say something about teething, which it is also not, as he isn’t unsettled with it. I have looked into it myself and can be common and neither of those things! He has done it most of the day since 2 months old.

Feeling like I’m failing

Hey guys, I need some advice or some positivity here!
My daughter is 5 months next week and she has her first tooth coming through! Yay! But for the past month or so she has become so wary of family whenever I go to visit! She screams, won’t settle, cries the whole time. I went for my birthday to celebrate and I had to leave because she just would cry looking at anyone :( it’s so hard because she used to be so good with anyone!

Will this change or is this just the way she is? I try to see them as often as I can, and my MIL is looking after her in two weeks overnight and part of a day and I’m petrified of what’s going to happen, that she’s going to scream. My poor MiL 😭. I’m a very calm and collected person and I don’t get worked up when she does react this way… I just feel so sad and down that I can’t be with family and that my poor girl is scared. I give her so many cuddles, milk, toys, going to a quiet room, but she just doesn’t settle 😭

Please someone say this is a phase and there is light at the end of the tunnel ?!!

With the weather getting nicer I just feel we are going to miss out on so many lovely family memories