Don’t want to send to nursery

I feel the same and I'm not returning to work (a whole host of other reasons too) of course that's not an option for everyone but they do thrive in nursery. You'll miss them of course it'll feel like you've lost an arm but I can't guarantee they'll do so well there. I know they send updates through the day on little one too after a week or so you'll be used to it xx

Iv only just started going back to work and I’m in the same position as you I don’t have any family that are able to watch him and I felt more comfortable putting him with a childminder than a nursery x

I settled on a childminder in March, she’s a close family friend and the only ofsted outstanding one in our town. She’s brilliant my boy starts next week! Nursery would’ve given me a lot of anxiety personally x

I don’t know how you find one, but would getting an au pair or nanny be an option?

I just don’t want anyone else to take care of him. Not saying they won’t do a good job but it’s not the same time,care and attention I give him. If I don’t go to work obviously financially it will be bad 😔

I don’t like the idea of childminders more than nursery because it’s in someone’s home, I know they do checks and stuff but I don’t know. If it was someone I knew I guess I would feel differently. I am hoping to do part time but I didn’t want him to go at all 😔 I wish we could stay home and play with them forever too. Until school time would be perfect, not sending them somewhere when they’re still babies 💔

it’s heartbreaking isn’t it 😔

happy you’ve found a solution you’re happy with x

hey, no that’s not an option. I don’t want him to be taken care of by a stranger full stop. So I don’t think I’d feel any better about that than a nursery because I’d probably be jealous that someone is having all that one on one time with my child and it’s not me or my family

I felt like this with my first, it's so hard to get your head around someone else looking after them.
With this baby I know he is so ready to be around other babies and different toys etc, he's just so active compared to my first chilled out bubba.

We compromised with the first and he went to a very small, home based nursery. But I know you're saying you're not comfortable at all.
Hope you can find a solution you feel happy with 💕

Can you afford to leave work? Might be worth doing the sums, also look at the tax free childcare calculator and work out if it’s more cost effective going part time. If you need to work then you need childcare, so you might as well try and find the best possible solution for you and your child.

Totally get that… it’s my least favourite part of having babies, letting other people take care of my children while I work so that we have enough money to live

I’m not going back to work because I can’t face leaving him. I’m going to wait untill he is at least 2. But I also work from home in the evenings when my partner is home, my full time job I’m not going back too. Maybe look at ways you can work from home ? Xx

it really is so hard to get your head around, we go to play groups a few times a week so he gets a fair bit of other babies and toys but of course I’m there to keep an eye on him so I feel fine with all that but I can’t imagine not being there 😭
Thank you xx

I can afford to leave work for a little while as I have some savings but I’m a single parent so that will be drained quite quickly and of course with nothing coming in to replace the savings it’s not ideal. I want part time but again as I will be paying for his childcare it will be expensive even with some help. I’m just looking at all the options again after all this advice x

it’s awful. We should be able to take care of our own babies

I want to stay home but I’m a single parent so I don’t have any help. I have applied for evening work to replace my day job but not having any look. I constantly look at work from home but again no luck and I can’t do that in my current role they said it’s a definite no x