Separation anxiety, what shall I do?

The father of my baby broke up with me when I was 20w pregnant. I wasn't stable enough to find a place to live and we've decided to co-parenting. He wants to take our 7w old baby for a couple of hours to see a friend. I'm not ready for the separation and I've tried to explain it. He hasn't taken it well. We got into a massive fight where's saying "we can do this the hard way" meaning court etc.. I don't know what to do. I just want time to prepare myself to be apart from her...

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Are you living together? I would definitely be happy to "do this the hard way". How can he think its OK to take a newborn from their mother to go "see a friend"? Who is this really important friend who needs to see your baby without you?

Yes we're living in the same house. Thank you for replying Vinita

Completely normal to feel like this and he sound very inconsiderate. Give him two options, either the friend comes over to see baby with you being there or you go with him to friends house.

Agre me with the above advice. Your baby, for a multitude of reasons, should NOT be away from you. It’s not healthy for the baby on so many levels.

If he wants to do it the hard way, best practices would likely support you insisting you not be separated from your babe.

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