Just turning up

My family wouldn’t dare! 👹

😂😂 can they be mine please? My dads losing the argument fast at the moment but apparently I’m the one putting a strain on our relationship 👀

Yup! very annoying. Not my family though

My inlaws have a copy of my husbands shift pattern so on days when he's off or on a late shift we will just get a text saying "will be there in x number of minutes" it drives me insane. Most of the time it's fine but would it really be so hard to say "we would like to come visit is that OK with you?" 🙄

that’s my issue! It’s not that they aren’t welcome, it’s that they should ask and not just expect it to be okay

This is not normal behaviour. It’s so rude! I can’t believe they’d argue with you about it.

If they just turn up, then the petty side of me would leave them hanging on the doorstep and then I’d respond later that day saying that 1. you and the baby were taking a nap and 2. in future it would be better for them to give you plenty of notice so you can let them know the best time to visit so they can have plenty of cuddles with baby when they’re awake or to double check that you don’t already have plans. Good luck with however you decide to handle it. That sounds stressful! X

It isn't difficult to ask instead! My in laws are around A LOT but I don't really mind because they always ask "we're going to be out and about tomorrow, is it okay if we pop round?" Etc..
It's unfair of them to just expect you to be there whenever they feel like visiting. It's not an 'appointment', it's literally just making plans! Xx

My family (and his, mostly) know not to just show up as they probably wouldn’t be let in! 😂

Perhaps you could tell them you are going to try and get out more with baby and go to baby classes etc (even if you’re not) so you don’t want to be in the house as much as you are. That way they know you won’t be in to see them?
My partner had words with mine in laws to say don’t just turn up always ask and she will ask for help if she needs it and they have respected that luckily!

Did they use to book appts to see you before? I'd point out nothing much has changed being as how baby won't be available if pure not...

I made it very clear to everyone during my pregnancy that we were not going to be having visitors for at least a month after my LG was born and the only person that came over was my mum and dad the day after I was home to help me out a bit as my partner had an emergency at work and my mum a few times in the week when my partner went back to work as I wasn’t sleeping well so she would have baby downstairs for a few hours so I could sleep. I have left people stood at the door when I’m in though as they should always ask before coming. If I’m not ready or prepared then no one is answering that door and they’ll get a phone call later on telling them we were sleeping and to ask in future to make sure we’re awake first x

They live opposite me … they act like it’s an extension of their house :/

oh lovely. You win this one. I don’t know how you’re coping. I think I’d flip then too. Sending all the positive thoughts x

My dad likes to do this however after walking in on me breastfeeding (which he was mortified at 🤣) he’s not done it again and now texts first to see if it’s okay.

I have the opposite....my mum can't be bothered to come and see my kids at my house because I don't live on her door step. Well im sorry but it's not my responsibility to make sure people are in my kids lives....make the effort or don't bother