Feel like a failure.
Having such a rough morning. Just sat here crying cos I feel like I've failed as a mum. I'm at my wits end. From day one me and husband have butted heads on giving her things like chocolate, sweets & ice cream, how much screen time she gets. And when she was a few weeks old I was dead set against giving her a dummy but was eventually pressured into it. My daughter is now 2 years old and for the past few weeks every day she is crying for either chocolate / candy / ice cream / dummy or TV. When I refuse she will have an absolute meltdown crying for daddy. I worked so hard at getting to reduce her dummy use to nap & bedtime. Which worked and i felt we were clost to getting rid of it for good. But she has recently had pain from her back teeth coming in and husband has allowed her dummy all day. She now cries for it all day long. When she has it in her mouth it's sooo frustrating cos I can't undertand what she's saying. I feel like I've completely failed by allowing all these things and then when I refuse her and she cries for daddy I feel like she thinks I'm a horrible mum. I'm also pregnant with baby no.2. Don't know if it's just pregnancy hormones but I can't stop crying today.
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Aww don’t feel so bad. I used to do research interviewing Mums and had to ask them a question about how do they feel they’re doing as a mother. And almost all the Mums would always look so guilty and rated themself low saying things like they’re not doing well enough. And I could see when meeting these Mums that their kids were actually doing well and the Mums loved and cared for them so much. I think Mum guilt is very common and we put such a high bar up for ourselves. Teething is also a super hard time. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Take some time to relax and don’t stress if things aren’t going great all the time. 😊 I can tell you love your baby a lot and that’s why you’re feeling upset. So it’s actually a sign that you’re a good Mum.
Children feel when we are weak, when we are weak, we are not a safe place of stability and discipline for them, they feel the emotional "weather". All of you could benefit from some firmness, in my opinion.
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