Why everyone gets upset when I say I’m feeling fat and ugly?

I went through basically the exact same thing. When I first got pregnant with my son I thought I was gonna be relieved because I didn’t have to worry about how I looked and all that because I knew I was pregnant and it was normal to be bigger when you’re pregnant especially 3rd trimester but that just wasn’t the case for me. I felt like I wasn’t myself the second half of my pregnancy. I also didn’t even do maternity pictures because I didn’t wanna take those pictures cause I just felt so ugly and fat. I got married when I was in my 3rd trimester and looking back on those pictures kinda makes me sad because the day I was suppose to feel more beautiful than anything I didn’t even look like myself really. I gained a lot of weight my first pregnancy and I’m currently pregnant with my second and so terrified to look like that again like the fear of gaining too much weight hitting harder this time I think.

1st pregnancy is beautiful so no matter how big you get you are beautiful don’t forget that, your body is doing so much to grow a whole new human
2nd it is hard when people make those comments especially in an aggressive way but just know they are just trying to make you feel better, they just don’t understand what you’re going through
3rd I think women who have no history of body dysmorphia or eds also have a hard time recognizing themselves during pregnancy due to the super fast changes and having history with body issues definitely makes it harder to love your body during pregnancy
4th try to give yourself some grace. It’s hard but just remember your body is changing very fast in a short period of time. It’s for an amazing purpose so try not to stress too much about it. When you see that baby at the end it makes it all worth it :)

thank you !! I’m really trying but the photos just ruined my day and my a friendship:(

Although maybe a bit misguided, your friends and family still mean really well telling you how lovely you look, and they probably do mean what they say!

If you have a history of mental illness and body dismorphia, they're probably worried these photos have triggered you (which they have) and want you to be okay about it, but don't understand that it might have made you feel worse.

Delete the offending photo, enjoy the others, and get in contact with your local perinatal mental health team via your midwife or GP (if you're in the UK) they're a great service that help women during and after pregnancy. I'm under their care currently as my anxiety flared massively with hormones. It's a tough time mentally and physically, but you'll have a wonderful bub at the end, and will be able to physically work out etc later, but it's important to focus on feeling okay about your body now x

🙏🏼♥️ thank you for the kind words ! I actually messaged my obgyn yesterday saying I might need some help !