Pregnancy / motherhood

I’m a first time mom , I’m 4 months pp. I love my baby but does anyone look at their baby and get freaked out that you literally grew a human in your belly for 9 months .
Pregnancy was the most werid thing I’ve ever experienced in my life . Motherhood is hard & I’m struggling. I also have postpartum depression. And think I have ptsd . I’m literally a mess and miss my old life . Anyone else feel this way??

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I have felt all those things at some point since I’ve had my baby.

I haven’t had my little girl yet, but I’m missing aspects of the old life! Especially my body! I feel like I’m never going to get back to my old look - boobs and bum 😖
I hope you feel better soon, I’m sure it’s like a rollercoaster of emotions right now for you ❤️

Haven’t had my baby yet but two more months!! I’m feeling the same way… I’ve felt that I’ve missed out on alot of things and have felt more distant with my friends. My pregnancy is kicking my ass, I’m not sleeping, I have bad heart burn, my whole body hurts. I totally understand where you’re coming from

Preaching to the choir. I totally understand all of that.

Yes I've felt exactly that in the last couple of days and badly miss my old life.
I keep telling my husband that it's not fair that all the guys get to be the same and never have to experience any of this while the ladies all have to go through everything and have their life and body changed forever 🫣
I know it's not easy but that's what we're designed for so we should be proud of ourselves so give yourself a pat on the back cos you're doing great👌😇

Yes. I think feeling that way is perfectly normal plus the surge of hormones or takes to create and deliver a baby. I Can say my baby Is 10 months now and at about 8 months I noticed that I turned a corner and started to feel a lot more like myself.
It’s all temporary. No feeling or thought will last forever. Expect to feel different for a little while and take time to do things you used to do. Get a baby sitter and go Out to Dinner with your friends or hit the gym or go to the spa or whatever nurture yourself through this too. You’ve been through a lot and keeping a little human alive is no easy feat.

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My boyfriend booked a trip for us to go to mexico for a week as my push present. I have severe anxiety leaving my 7 month old with my mom. I know she will be in good hands but she’s exclusively breast fed for the most part but accepts bottles just fine. i have all my pumping parts packed and will pump when baby normally eats but i don’t want baby to forget me or have latch issues when i return!! any mommas ever experience this?

Postpartum

I’m only 3 days postpartum (FTM) and already have extremely bad anxiety. I’m crying every night, as I think of another night of no sleep. My baby will not settle in his cot, he cries every moment we put him down unless in his chair rocker. So me and my partner are having to alternate after 3/4 hours of being awake with him downstairs. I’m trying everything to get him to settle. It’s a load of overwhelming stress. I’m 23, I was desperate for a baby and now I have one and feel completely useless. I miss it just being me and my partner.

When does it get better?

I was crying on the phone with the perinatal mental health team today and the lovely lady, bless her, kept assuring me that it gets better. I kept telling her I hope so because people have been saying that since having my LO and it just feels like it keeps getting worse. She assured me it gets better....

Night time routine

Heya, my 3 week old daughter is currently exclusively breastfed and I’m not pumping. Can anyone recommend the best way to share the load with my partner? At the moment I’m doing all the feeds/burbs/settling and my partner is sleeping through which obviously isn’t sustainable, I’m trying to work out the best way to get him involved. Any advice very much appreciated!

Rapid cool/ hot shot method

Sorry if this sound stupid but how are we doing the hot shot method?
Are we boiling the kettle and letting it cool a little before adding to hot flask? Then with the cool water do you boil the kettle and leave it to cool right down before putting into another flask?
My baby brain is fried trying to work out the easiest way!

Rant/WWYD

My sister (youngest, 24) has two kids, 4 & 1, and i (oldest, 30) just have my one who’s 6mo old right now, so i ask her for advice or call her to vent about things sometimes. Well im tired of her turning around and telling my other family members that I’m “losing my sh*t.” Literally have not lost my sh*t nor have i ever freaked out to her about my baby, i just call her to talk and tell her what stage my baby is in or talk through how im feeling, but she chooses to tell people that im like a complete nutcase or something which worries me that my family is going to start being judgmental about me as a mother or looking at me funny like I’m some fragile ticking time bomb.

What would you do in this situation? I’m already pretty much decided that I’ll stop telling her anything about my struggles, but I’m almost at the point where i feel like it should be confronted because she, of all people, should understand what I’m going through.