Curious to know if anyone else is struggling.

It’s completely normal to feel a little apprehensive about this change. We didn’t think we could have kids so when I fell pregnant it took a while to accept! But they are so worth it when they are here.
If you are struggling and maybe having doubts I would advise you talking to your partner for his support and your midwife.
I’ve found baby classes and know lots of people who have found NCT classes really helpful to make friends to share the anxiety, worries and joy with!
I hope this passes for you and you can settle into everything x

I'm going through something similar. Me and my bf were on and off for years, I moved to jersey and he visited me and we got pregnant. That was ok because we both really wanted to be parents. But we live together now and im a stay at home mom for first time and it's been extremely tough, just yesterday we got into another fight and I told him he disgusts me and I don't want to be with him, to make matters worse, I'm 12 weeks pregnant again and I was not ready for this so I guess you can I resent him in a huge way, like most days I hate this life I live and it's just been so depressing and low for me...trust me you are not alone, I'm here if you need to chat with me ok xo sending you a big hug

I know this sounds really pathetic but I feel you on this to. Like I’m actually sat here questioning if my husband wants our child. He never posts about her on his social media. Doesn’t like any of the stuff I’ve tagged him in about her but likes all of the stuff our siblings post about their children and comments all the time. And It’s really making me emotional. We’ve been together 10 years. I think having a child makes you question everything. I really wish it didn’t. I’m so emotional but your completely entitled to feel how you feel and don’t be so hard on yourself for feeling these emotions. Xxx

thank you so much for your reassuring words, really grateful. I will speak to my partner and my midwife about feeling this way. That sounds like just what I need, I will look into classes I do think they will help being around people in similar situations and not allowing myself to feel so isolated and alone. Thank you again Lizzie x

that's not pathetic, I literally unfollowed my bf on Instagram because he never really represented or showed me off, I felt invisible, he would post pictures of him and our son but not me and we've been on and off for 7 years, I'm just over a lot of shit, I feel like I'm loving the life he wanted and not the life I wanted

I just said to him it’s making me feel so lonely in this journey like I’m the only one excited and like he can’t accept our child. We have had a struggle to get her so I do understand he may be finding it hard but I said to him I post something he doesn’t even react to it. I feel like I’m almost begging for his attention I feel so stupid I really do. Now I’ve just started posting things about her on my own and not including him and tagging him etc but it’s so upsetting. Xxx

I’m so sorry to hear you are feeling this way too. That sounds like such a difficult situation to be in. I completely understand that, I get waves of thinking it is right but there is times I just sit and do worry if this isn’t right thing for me and on top of that comes the guilt with feeling this way. I have been feeling so depressed and low too. That really means a lot. Always here if you need to chat too. Sending you big hugs back xo

thank you so much Kellie. I’m so sorry you are feeling a similar way and your husband isn’t coming across exciting about your child. I think you are so right with saying it does make you question everything, as that sums up my thoughts it’s all I think about like is my partner the right person, could I be happier, is this the right time am I going to be a good mum is this meant to be I’m just questioning everything. Thank you for reassuring me and same to you lovely. Xxx

I get it, and that's what I wa s just going to suggest, just exclude him, if he's not present for you show him the same courtesy he's showing you, usually when you give them a taste of their own medicine they end up feeling it and saying something about it

I would reach out to your midwife and ask to be referred to perinatal mental health team for some help. Just talking to someone might help how you are feeling x

I will do that, thank you Steph really appreciate the advice x