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Another baby

My little boy is 8 weeks today and I am desperate to have another baby. I’ve loved being a mum so much I feel like it’s completed me and completely changed my outlook on life. My partner doesn’t want another baby and especially not straight away, as he says we can’t afford another one. But I feel like I’m not getting any younger and I’ve realised a big family is what I want. What should I do? How should I go about explaining this to him? Or am I being inconsiderate of his needs and wants? FYI we aren’t doing terribly money wise and we both earn an ok wage so I wouldn’t say we couldn’t afford it, it just might be trickier for me to be on maternity pay again.

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You should tell him especially if age is a factor. Men can always make a baby but us women our chances go down everyday

it’s actually quite common to have these thoughts shortly after birth, because we’re so in love and loving the newborn bubble 🥹 i had these exact thoughts, but later realised that i wanted to enjoy my son for as long as possible.
however, regarding age, i do understand as my cut-off age is approaching so i do relate to you on that one, but thankfully my partner is on the same page as me ☺️

you definitely need to speak to your partner about this, and about wanting another baby soon due to age etc x

I would give your body time to heal & for your hormones to settle then re evaluate how you feelYou’re definitely still in that so in love phase of having a newborn. Waiting a year is not an awfully long time at all. Enjoy these little moments because once you have another child you aren’t going to be able to focus on the little moments with your first born. You’ll constantly be spreading your attention. Give that baby 100% of you now while you can 8 weeks is no time and you guys are still bonding. If you’re just now realizing you want a big family but he does not you guys need to talk and figure out a compromise cause it’s not fair to him if you guys got married with the intentions of 1 maybe 2 tops and now you want more than that. I would say don’t bug him about it right now. You’ve already expressed your interest in another child. Give him time. He’s a new parent too and men go through stress with newborns as well so you may pressure him too much and cause unnecessary fights.

I'm the same my daughter is 11 weeks old and I'm just enjoyed her at the moment 🥰🥰 but can't wait for baby number 3 sooner rather than later. Ideally want to start trying again when she's about 1 as it gives my body time to heal, hopefully tone my belly a bit and get to enjoy my 2 girls I already have before adding another baby just yet 🙈🤣 but I so can't wait either 😍😍😍

Wait till they get to 6-12 months, you might change your mind 🤣

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I'm struggling. Have been for a while. I've had one break from parenting my daughter, that was for 3 hours in December when I left her with her dad.

She's 14 months old and I'm just tired. I've done every night by myself. He's out of bed at 4am and doesn't get home until 7-9pm. He drives for work, very physically tiring.
On the weekends he was doing 6 days, one weekend day off, but now has both off.

He doesn't sit on the floor and play with her, he doesn't read to her because he says she doesn't have the patience.
He will pick her up and hold her whilst he's cooking.

Recently I've been "snappy" with him.
He got back from the mechanic last weekend, she was getting onto the sofa and he put his headphones on and started to watch Netflix on his phone.
The same day I told him I was going to run her bath and to watch her whilst she was still eating, he fell asleep on the sofa.

Today he went to football after going shopping, so was out 1-3 and then from 4-8.
He got back and I was snappy.

"I don't get why you're so snappy with me"

I said - Probably because I haven't had a break since December.

"Do you think I don't know you haven't had a break. I haven't had a break", "I just won't go to work, I'll sit at home all day".

Then "do you think I like not having a connection to my child"... But that's on him? He never sits to play with her. He "doesn't see the point". He's stated that this age is boring to him.

Since she's been born, he has been to a friend's once a month. Football - He stopped going for 7months, but has been the last two weekends.

Are these not breaks?

He does do the washing/washing up/cooking/vacuuming when I haven't had a chance to; but I'm the one in charge of feeding her, naps/bedtime, teeth brushing, hair brushing, baths, dressing her, making sure she has the right shoes, appointments etc. Everything falls on me.

If your partner works ridiculously long hours, how much do they look after your child? Do you ever get a break?

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