I hate my partner but I feel bad for my baby

Our relationship has gone seriously south since the birth of our baby in Oct 21. Now I actually see the problems were there before just amplified now. I actually have hatred for him. He’s so rude to my family I’m constantly making excuses for his behaviour. He is moody & rude to me
All the time. To top it off he said I do nothing around the house & am suffocating my child. This is cause I said they needed sun cream on to go outside in this heat. Also, to put into context I work full time ( hybrid home & office ) cause I earn more than him & we can’t afford for me to reduce hours, and I also look after my child full time ( we have nursery one morning a week ). My child sleeps in with me as is a terrible sleeper & only way we sleep ( my husband sleeps through the night in another room ), I do all the food shopping, make sure my baby has everything she needs, take her out & plan activities around work every day, sort all the holidays from scratch, buy all this family birthday presents etc, basically do everything. He cleans the house now & again, takes the bins out & weeds the garden. Oh and builds the odd shelf. He belittles how hard I work & I really hate him. I want to leave him but am worried financially & feel devestated for my child. I had the best upbringing. I don’t know what to do. Needed to vent. Have no one to talk to.

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I would leave him because in the long run it's only going to be worse for your child who will eventually start picking up on things. I know it's a scary thought but you can still give your child an amazing upbringing by being a single parent. Look into the benefits you'll get being a single mum such as Universal credit and you might be surprised that you'll possibly be better off. It doesn't sound like a healthy situation xx

You’re basically single anyway and sounds like you’ll be fine without him. But if you did want to make a go of things, sounds like a lot of resentment has built up. If you go to Instagram page meet_thefreemans they are marriage counsellors and a lot of what they post about will probably resonate with you. You could work on things with counselling but it’s whether you want to x

It sounds like you already do everything and are pretty much a single mum. Drop the dead weight. You deserve to be happy and respected. You could be frank with him and explain how you feel. Maybe that would trigger a change in him?

👋🏼 same boat here. Welcome to send me a message z

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