Baby is boob obsessed…

Baby only wants to nap on the boob. And feed on the boob (have tried a couple of bottles now and looking to build up to more combi feeding over the next couple of months, but baby wasn’t too happy about the bottles), so mostly he needs me and his dad is feeling a bit helpless and I’m pretty knackered.

My baby wants to be on me/my boob for every nap. My previous child was a cuddler at this 4 month old point (now 3) but this at least meant my partner could get him down for a nap. My LO can’t seem to fall asleep without the boob, it’s like he’s convinced he needs little sips all the time. During the nap I can sometimes get his mouth off me, but if I try to put him down into bed/the pram his eyes ping open and he’s wide awake- resulting in a very sad and overtired baby and it takes forever to get him back.

Have tried the Rockit, lots of white noise, shushing, bouncing etc. They maybe work once every three days if I’m lucky. 99% of the time only the boob works. I can get him to sleep if I push him in the pram but a) only if he is well fed first and b) that still doesn’t free me up to do stuff because as soon as I get home/stop pushing he wakes.

He does allow me to put him down at nighttime, thank goodness (he sleeps fine at night, again- needs the boob to drift off), but I need more time in the day with him off me. Either to look after my other son when he’s home from pre-school, do chores or rest myself.

I love the cuddles and the chance to sit down, which is delightful when you’ve got a three year old, so I’m happy to still do this with him occasionally, but not every nap any more. It’s just too much.

Any thoughts…?

in our community

Can someone pls help i keep making this post and nobody is responding

My boyfriend booked a trip for us to go to mexico for a week as my push present. I have severe anxiety leaving my 7 month old with my mom. I know she will be in good hands but she’s exclusively breast fed for the most part but accepts bottles just fine. i have all my pumping parts packed and will pump when baby normally eats but i don’t want baby to forget me or have latch issues when i return!! any mommas ever experience this?

Postpartum

I’m only 3 days postpartum (FTM) and already have extremely bad anxiety. I’m crying every night, as I think of another night of no sleep. My baby will not settle in his cot, he cries every moment we put him down unless in his chair rocker. So me and my partner are having to alternate after 3/4 hours of being awake with him downstairs. I’m trying everything to get him to settle. It’s a load of overwhelming stress. I’m 23, I was desperate for a baby and now I have one and feel completely useless. I miss it just being me and my partner.

When does it get better?

I was crying on the phone with the perinatal mental health team today and the lovely lady, bless her, kept assuring me that it gets better. I kept telling her I hope so because people have been saying that since having my LO and it just feels like it keeps getting worse. She assured me it gets better....

Night time routine

Heya, my 3 week old daughter is currently exclusively breastfed and I’m not pumping. Can anyone recommend the best way to share the load with my partner? At the moment I’m doing all the feeds/burbs/settling and my partner is sleeping through which obviously isn’t sustainable, I’m trying to work out the best way to get him involved. Any advice very much appreciated!

Rapid cool/ hot shot method

Sorry if this sound stupid but how are we doing the hot shot method?
Are we boiling the kettle and letting it cool a little before adding to hot flask? Then with the cool water do you boil the kettle and leave it to cool right down before putting into another flask?
My baby brain is fried trying to work out the easiest way!

Rant/WWYD

My sister (youngest, 24) has two kids, 4 & 1, and i (oldest, 30) just have my one who’s 6mo old right now, so i ask her for advice or call her to vent about things sometimes. Well im tired of her turning around and telling my other family members that I’m “losing my sh*t.” Literally have not lost my sh*t nor have i ever freaked out to her about my baby, i just call her to talk and tell her what stage my baby is in or talk through how im feeling, but she chooses to tell people that im like a complete nutcase or something which worries me that my family is going to start being judgmental about me as a mother or looking at me funny like I’m some fragile ticking time bomb.

What would you do in this situation? I’m already pretty much decided that I’ll stop telling her anything about my struggles, but I’m almost at the point where i feel like it should be confronted because she, of all people, should understand what I’m going through.