Visiting in laws

I hate it mines was like this nd still is unfortunately he allowed her nd her husband nd sister to move in wit us smh they have taken over my living room nd jus olwont leave. I keep saying I'm a leave but haven't started packing up to put everything in my storage yet. They tend to think we'll take their child I guess h I dnt understand it as they go through similar things wit theirs nd know they dnt like the treatment yet so it to others

i understand they want to visit and hang out but i feel like they plan to come and book everything without even telling or asking us. It’s disrespectful imo. This isnt their second home or vacation home.

Exactly my point they came as they please dnt care if we having sex or I'm masterbation or jus sleep. They have no respect but want us to have the utmost for them smh ppl like that I try my very best to jus stay away. If your husband don't say or do ntn bout it then you have to yourself

I think it's important to talk to hubby and see how he feels. If your mom is living with you, maybe he finds some comfort in his own parents visiting often. Yea it all becomes one big family but there's a different kind of comfort between the family you grew up with.

For me, maybe it's the whole, "you want what you can't have," but my mom passed away before my first was born. I welcome visits from hubby's family. But I will say, though, they moved in with us because they were transitioning from out of state, &after 2 years, it got really old. Especially because I expected that they'd spend more time with my son but they kept themselves in their rooms and only came out to eat and didn't clean up after themselves every time. It got frustrating because I actually needed help with my boy but they had their own lives to live. Now that they moved out, I'm the one telling hubby to tell his sister to come get some dinner when I'm cooking a big meal. Communicate with hubby, maybe he loves them coming so often?

And if it bothers you, have him communicate a better way for them to visit. Like giving you guys ample time to prepare. And your mom shouldn't feel like she's getting pushed out by their visit. I wonder why she does?

I'd talk with your husband and then your in-laws. Explain that this is your mom's home too and that she needs to be able to stay and feel welcomed even when your in-laws are there. And explain that you need a couple weeks or a month or however long in advance to prepare for them to come. Ask your husband if he sees any solution to these problems so you can talk it out together.

Also, how often is it that they come? You said 3 times since you had your daughter but when was that? And how long do they stay? If it's like every other month, maybe they could cut it back some and use the money they save on travel expenses to stay in an airbnb near you? Those can be cheaper than hotels.

It seems reasonable for them to want to spend time with your baby, just not without any notice. Is there a reason you don't trust your MIL with your daughter?