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What's your take on this situation?

I'm pregnant with my second, first is currently 14 months. Husband plays sports once a week for 2 hours. Not an issue. He has just told me he's intending to play an additional sport on Sunday for 3-4 hours... playing one sport is reasonable to me but two with another baby on the way, we also live in another country to where our family live so have zero help... to me it feels very selfish, i get he needs an outlet so the one makes sense but to the second with a second baby is just too much to me... he thinks I'm being unreasonable and controlling in this situation... what's your take?

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Unreasonable and controlling? He's got to be joking! He already has his outlet and he's wanting to spend half his Sunday pursuing another sport for his interests? That's what's Unreasonable. Men rarely listen or try to understand our opinions if it inconveniences them though. Im sure you've probably explained that it will be extra pressure for you and you'll need a hand with the kids? Does he help out much when he's home? Family should be number one

thank you! I honestly just needed someone to make me feel heard and your comment had made me feel a lot better, and validated in my feelings

No you're not being unreasonable and controlling you're being realistic. I have a similar age gap. My husband used to go out on a decent few nights out and did his home workouts as it was just easier and more accessible. But now since baby no 2 is here he just won't be going on nights out for quite a while!! It's just what goes with the territory. 2 under 2 ...they're also his kids and his responsibility so sacrifices and changes have to be made. And it has to be balanced between you both! My husband will be going out with me first before he goes out with any of his friends! I'm not being stuck minding the kids if it's not reciprocated. Plus our time would be priority over that of others. And it's not as if Ur husband has no outlet which for sure is important for any parents/person generally.

thanks Hilary! Everything you said here I just nod at head at, I completely feel the same way you do

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