Car safety group on fb

Wtf is this judgmental group???? For one mistake or not knowing something is more ‘correct’ than the other they all come down on you and start acting high and mighty. Never felt this much anxiety on a post before.

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I’m in this group and I’m so anxious because I want recommendations on a car seat but feel I’ll get judged 🤣 I feel I know nothing when I read the posts lol 🤣

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Also in this group! The way I’ve seen some of the ‘admin’ and ‘mods’ talk to people is vile!

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I deleted my post cos I got so much hate from the admin woman loooooool

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I removed myself from that group. It’s ridiculous.

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Whenever I see someone on here suggesting joining that group I’m just like 😬😬

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I feel like joining to wind them up and give them a taste of their own medicine!

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I left that group made me so anxious! 🫣

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I'm on the group. Just because I bought my car seat off an admin and I want the aftercare, but I've turned off notifications as I can't cope with people being judgy.
I chose to buy an enhanced rear facing seat because I wanted to.

The law states you can forward face from 15 months and if that's what people want to do then there's nothing wrong with that as it's legal.

It's personal choice and you shouldn't get attacked for that

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The admin on that group are the worst for it!

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I didn’t know you could forward face from 15 months, I’ve seen so many people on the group say rear face til 4 years old, so that’s what I thought it was 🤷🏻‍♀️😅 get too worried to ask 🤣

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@Rhiannon I'm pretty sure that's the law.
But based on babies bones and development it is much safer to rear face as long as possible.
But that's a choice you should make yourself and you shouldn't be shamed if you don't want to do that

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of course! It’s mums choice at the end of the day!

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So I posted my baby in the car seat asking for advice and instead of help I got a bashing for forward facing but I had a good reason why I wanted to know but she sent me videos of car crash examples and how I’ve set it up so dangerously etc. they create fear for no reason. And then another admin decides to put some red sticker as a comment saying no one comment on this post lol. I just wanted advice on how to position front facing if I ever needed to do so that wasn’t rear facing

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Then I got blocked because I deleted my post. I only deleted it cos of the shame I felt cos of all the comments lmao

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Omg I hate that page! I had to unfollow it because it drove me insane 😩 I can’t believe people speak to one another that way x

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It is HORRENDOUS! I advise to go to an actual shop that stocks various car seats and baby items and speak to them, if there’s one in your area!

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It's a horrible group it really is, it's taught me a lot about car seat safety which is obviously good but the comments people get are just unnecessary and rude

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