I want to swap HV

I do not like my hv at all. She ignores my thoughts so often. Daughter is 2 and we r planning on home education her when she's a but older (starting a bit now). HV has went behind my back and spoke to a nursery to get a full placement. I told her that myself and partner didn't see it benefitting daughter, I mentioned that I feel like she might have a neurological issue happening as she can flip within 2 seconds. I know toddlers will be toddlers but this isn't normal and again got ignored and just told that she will "grow out of it". She did used to go nursery and was in a mixed class with her age and older and like 2 days after starting she started biting. She wouldn't do it before. As soon as I stopped taking her she stopped biting. I don't know how to request a new HV. She treats me as if I'm a 2 year old myself and acts like my disability (I'm autistic and see same traits in daughter) is the problem I don't want her to go nursery. Sorry for the rant I'm just sick of getting treated like a 2year old just because I refuse to put daughter into nursery. (Nursery did also say they couldn't stop bio dad from picking daughter up -partner is only dad se knows as bio dad has no contact- it was a major safe guarding issue but I got brushed off) am I in the wrong to ask for a new one. And does anyone know how long you have a HV for

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Is there a reason you have a health visitor so involved? There’s a review at 1 year old and then at 2 years old but between the reviews they are just there for you to contact if you need them?

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I only saw my HV twice. I didn’t they you get assigned one for so long?
I’m sure if you put in a request for a new one you can.

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You should have received a letter when baby was born from the health visiting team there will be a number on it. if you call them and explain your problems they will change your health visitor and file a complaint for you xxx

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@Elizia I had a family nurse when baby was first born so the letter is addressed for them never got one from HV

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@Lisa I am a young mum (18) think that is why but my sister who is 20 is also having a family nurse. I never got the choice to not have one

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In Australia we have a maternal health nurse. Our kids see them until they are 3.5/4years but the visits are slowly spaced out longer and longer in between. My 4 year old had his last visit at 3.5yrs and since he had no issues a 4 year visit wasn’t necessary. They never go behind your back and just do stuff, mainly there to weigh, measure address concerns you may have and to give you information for the age of your child. I’m so sorry yours sounds like real handful

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Resentment and placing blame on partner

Firstly, please don’t judge me - I’m aware all my thoughts aren’t rational and I do already feel badly about them

I’m finding myself becoming easily frustrated, annoyed, and placing a lot of blame on my partner for many things. Now I’d get it if he was rubbish but he’s not - he has the baby straight away when he gets home from work, he lets me get ready and shower before he goes to work, he pitches in with the chores and gives me any time I ask for off. He doesn’t go out loads either.

I do a lot of the mental labour - realising we need more of and purchasing clothes, milk, groceries, deciding dinner, cooking, cleaning, thinking about what baby needs, etc.

However I just find myself annoyed and blaming him for so many things I find difficult. I know this isn’t fair, but it’s almost like I’m angry that he’s finding it easy and I’m not. Angry if I’ve just got the baby to sleep and he doesn’t think and closes doors to loudly. Angry when he doesn’t dress baby warm enough, or when he puts him in a car seat with a coat on. When he forgets a blanket or doesn’t wash his hands and plays with him. When hes snoring and I’ve just got the baby to drift off.

We have had many conversations and he has tried to take loads off me but it never feels like enough for me to stop being annoyed with him.

Am I experiencing some sort of post partum mental health issues? I find myself upset and crying a lot. any advice would help.

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Nursery lunches?

My daughter is nearly 10 months old and starting nursery next month. I want to send my daughter in with lunches so I know shes eating healthy meals but I'm honestly so lost as to what to put in her little bento lunch box that will keep till lunch time and doesnt need reheating. Ive been doing loads of baby led weaning at home, but I tend to make it fresh or pull stuff from the freezer I've previously made and defrost and reheat.
Could you show me some of the lunches you've been giving your baby? Or have you been been letting the nursery deal with the food?

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Parenting 24/7 is harder than going to work full time?

I’m having a debate with my partner as he’s done nothing to help since. Our 14 month old was born, I’ve done it all alone all day and all night. He gets a break when he comes in from work all night I never get a break
He try’s to tell me it’s harder going to work full time 5 days a week than parenting ALONE 24/7?
What do you think

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What would u do? What should i do

So to try to explain this in the best way possible I have a very small apartment.
I opened my back door which leads directly to the laundry room of the building. Lately, I started bringing my son in the laundry room with me because he bangs on the door and tries to get out.

Today I opened the door to get my stuff out of the dryer. I saw I guess my neighbor putting stuff in the washer. It’s a very tight space so I closed the door and was planning on going back after he leave instead of crowding up the space with the baby. Plus I was in shorts and had no bra on, it was an older man.

I latched my door with the dead lock as I usually do so that I do not get locked out and I just left it that way without thinking about it.

I turned my back walk maybe about 5-7steps. My apartment is barely 15 steps front to back.
Turn around. Realize my baby is GONE he’s only 16 months!

I start yelling for him. I approach the door and I hear my son laughing…
The man had opened my door to lure my son in the laundry room with him without me knowing!!!!!!!

They were playing 🤯

He was there for no more then 20-30 seconds if that. It happened so fast, he doesn’t speak good English he’s polish
My door usually slams loud when closed, so this was done quietly…..


When I discovered that the man was with my son, I was trying to simply take my kid back in the house, but he continued on playing and I was yelling at my son that he shouldn’t be wondering without me.

No, first off I know for a fact, my son did not open the door number one. It’s very heavy and number two. He doesn’t know how to open doors yet.

And I asked the man straight out did my son open the door and he said no I did.

My son could get the door to open maybe an inch, I know that. So he must have done that and the man just decided to open it and bring my son with him.

I’m so outraged. Annoyed, uncomfortable. I live alone just me and my son.

What do I do?

I don’t know if he is maybe a visitor, I see his car sometimes but usually it’s another person who looks like him with a different car. Maybe my neighbors dad is my best bet.


Anyway. What should I do? Should I bring this to management. Should I approach my neighbor and figure out exactly who that was?

Thanks ladies wish me luck

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I live in a small 2 bedroom flat. How do I keep my home smelling nice?

Especially bedroom considering dirty laundry lives in there too. I do laundry once a week because I don’t use enough to do more frequent.
But I just want my room smelling nice and cosy.

The more natural the method the better ladies 😣
I open windows everyday. I don’t get enough sunlight for plants 😭

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FTM

Hello,
FTM here. At what age do you stop applying cream on nappy area during nappy changes? My 2 year old boy isn’t toilet ready yet but uses both nappy pants/pull ups and regular diapers

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