Coming up on my due date in about 1 month!

What are some practical lists for a hospital bag? Everything on the internet looks so long and heavy 😅 picture of baby #1 so we don’t get lost in the sauce… and for tax I had this sweet boy at 28w and 2 days so I didn’t even have a bag ready at all… this guy is almost 2 and I’m currently 34 weeks and 1 day :) Also I know this is a first time mom group but I didn’t do some of the first time mom things..

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This is my list I got 2 weeks as of Wednesday
Hospital List

Mom
✓ Sleepwear (2) shorts/ pants
✓ Pants (2)
✓ Shorts (2)
✓ Nursing shirts
✓ Breast pads
✓ Nipple cream
✓ Slippers
✓ Flip flops
✓ Underwear
✓ Fuzzy socks
✓ Nursing bras
✓ Robe
✓ Peri bottle
✓ Going home outfit.

Dad
✓ Comfortable clothes
✓ Hygiene products
✓ Cologne
✓ Toothbrush, toothpaste

Food
✓ Favorite snacks
Healthy
Sweet
Salty
✓ Water bottle
✓ Juice

Toiletries
✓ Dry shampoo
✓ Shampoo/conditioner (minis)
✓ Tooth brush/ toothpaste
✓ Deodorant
✓ Lotion
✓ Lip balm
✓ Face towel
✓ Body towel
✓ Big pads
✓ Hair brush/ hair ties
✓ Make up
✓ Make up remover

Baby
✓ 2-3 swaddles
✓ Newborn sleepsuit (2)
✓ 0-3 sleepsuit(2)
✓ Burp cloth
✓ Hairbrush
✓ Pacifiers
✓ Blanket
✓ First outfit
◦ Socks
✓ Bibs
✓ Going home outfit

Miscellaneous
✓ Portable fan
✓ Long phone charger
✓ Car seat
✓ Switch
✓ Sound machine
✓ Big blanket
✓ Baby announcement sign
✓ Bag for dirty clothes
✓ Speaker
✓ Nursing pillow

For baby:
2-3 newborn outfits/sleepers
2-3 of 0-3 month outfits/sleepers
Hats
Mittens
Swaddles
Burp cloths
Pacifiers
Socks
Bibs
1 pack of newborn diapers
Handful of size 1 diapers
Wipes
Bottles/formula (in case I can’t breastfeed)

For me:
2 pants
2 shirts
1 PJ
5 socks (hospital grade grippy’s, compression, and comfy)
Depends
Deodorant
Leave in/dry shampoo
Toothbrush & paste
Snacks
Frozen drinks
Water bottle
Loooooong phone charger
Nipple cream
1x nursing bra
1x regular bra
Nipple shield

For hubs:
1 sock
1 pant
1 shirt
1 underwear
Snacks/drinks
Looooong phone charger

Misc:
Car seat
Baby announcement sign
Newborn sticker for that first NB picture

(I already know I’ll only be in hospital for 24h post-op, and have already way overpacked for myself and baby).

Baby:
-Hats
-Mittens
-Couple onesies & going home outfit
-Pacifier
-Car seat with newborn insert

-they have almost everything you need for the baby

Mom:
-Breast pump (just you have LC make sure you know hope to use it and it’s the proper fit)
-Nipple cream
-Nursing pillow
-Nursing bra
-Nursing shirt/ button downs
-Comfy pajamas
-2 changes of clothes (going home outfit)
-Slippers
-Shower shoes
-Lotion
-Face, hair & hygiene products
-Cup or water bottle with straw
-Speaker for music
-Charger
-Snacks
-Period panties or underwear you don’t mind ruining
-Chapstick
-extra sweater

Dad:
-Slippers, socks
-2 changes of clothes
-Charger
-Snack/drinks
-Wallet
-Pillow
-sweater
-2 outfits

best choice i ever made was bringing my own pillow. make sure to put a non-white case on it so it doesn’t get mixed with hospital pillows. also having a robe to wear post partum was really nice.

I loved the always discreet black knickers (like adult nappies!)

#1 best purchase was the frida disposable underwear. so comfy and way better than what the hospital gave. i lowkey want to buy them just to wear from now on or during my periods 😂

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