I resent my partner

I resent my partner so much, we don’t live together he never has the kids to give me a break and continues to boast how he had a long soak or is gaming for hours or that he has nothing to do.

While I’m sat here breaking, I can’t tell him how I feel as he blame me for not having a house so he could move in and help.

I’ve had a break down this morning text him about it and my anxiety instantly regretted it thinking he’s gonna use this against me.

I feel trapped when we have split he threatens all legal action and to take the kids away.

I have no emotional towards him and I feel trapped.

I sound pathetic but no matter my action he will cause hell

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You're not pathetic and he sounds like a narcissist..he knows you love your kids and won't leave them to him.

I hope you find strength to life your head high and kick him to the kerb.

You can DM me if you wish. I had a partner like that. He is long gone and I couldn't be happier

Leave him! He’s not going to take legal action, he’s not taking the children now when you need him to do his part so why on Earth would he bother getting full custody or taking them from you. He really wouldn’t so don’t let that empty threat stop you from being happy x

If he cant even be bothered to care for them now he won't be after full custody. He knows how hard it is hence why he is being so lazy. Also the courts won't even justify his reasoning, there's no reason why you shouldn't have your kids if you are taking care of them adequately. Ignore him. He is blackmailing you.
Also keep a record of all his threats and his nasty comments for if he ever did go to legal you've all the evidence to prove he's doing this to spite you x

He will never take the kids...he sounds like such a loser. I hope he is not violent, DM me if you need to talk...my friend just had the strength to leave her partner who is also a narcissist.

My friend's children father was threatening her with legal actions if she didn't let him see his daughter (daughter he denied throughout pregnancy that she wasn't his and called my friend all sorts of names resulted in unnecessary DNA test) she stood her grounds and he had no basis to take legal actions as he's a deadbeat father, he was just using scare tactics on her. He backed off eventually.
Stand your ground he sound like narcissistic as someone already said

Leave him , do you really think he’s going to take legal action when he can’t even look after his kids now? Imagine he had them full time does he really think he’s going to be able to sit gaming for hours and getting long baths 😂 girl he’s using it against you so you don’t leave and if he does take legal action I’m sure the courts would be on your side as he hasn’t even bothered with them , and even if he does go to court it’s not like he will get full custody it will probably just get split 50/50 and he probably still won’t bother x

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