Feeling hopeless/depressed

Hi! I'm sorry you're going through that. Honestly, going back to work might help with how you're feeling and give you a break. When I went back to work last week, I missed my baby of course, but the break makes it a bit easier to handle the behavior when you get home.

I struggle with depression and anxiety before pregnancy and have been working on my mental health for years. One thing that's been helping me recently is doing three things everyday just because they make me happy. For example today I made myself a nice lunch and I'm going to watch a tv show and make chocolate covered apples. Focusing on finding three things everyday just to bring myself joy helps me focus my mind on positive things. While I was stressed at work my thoughts went to what can I do today to make me smile instead of what else needs to be done.

If it’s happening at the same time everyday maybe he is overtired? What are his naps like?

thank you love. I needed to hear that I’m sad about it but I know I need time out of the house. I pray we handle it so well 🙏

that is such a great thing to do. I love it and will do that everyday. I love my baby and I feel so great but sad to be going back to work. This will help for sure.

we follow his nap schedule well but he only naps for about 30-40 min max. He’s getting bored of all activities things we do

Dang, sorry that's happening! I can relate though. My babe is 3 months and is definitely going through a development leap. We stick to swaddled naps in a dark room with his sound machine on. That really helps him get good quality rest. I'd also suggest making sure babe is getting full feeds. I began really prioritizing that with my lil guy and its made a notice difference in his naps/mood. You could also try baby wearing to settle him or long stroller sessions? It'll get better❤️

I felt like this a month ago, I thought I had PPD and it was so bad. I started doing some babysitting job (with my baby) and it helped to just get out of the house and do something everyday.

Now I feel so much better, my baby is really calm and content. But it’s true that when she is going through a leap my mood is not so great..

It will be better soon!!

my baby used to do this also. May I ask… is he asleep when you put him in the bassinet? Sleep cycles are only that short and if he doesn’t have the ability to put himself back to sleep then he will wake up…

I’ve started sleep training and my 3mth old is awake in her bassinet before she naps. At the beginning she still woke up after 40 mins, but i implemented a technique I read about in a nap book. I’ll link a photo of the pages here. She now sleeps like 1hr 15 - 2hr naps for her 1st and sometimes second naps!!

I intervene at the moment the cycle changes

thank you! I tried baby wearing he is not a fan but he did fall asleep :) thank you I know it will !! 🤍

he loves getting out!! Thank you, he is def going through a leap just longer than expected! I can tell because he learned new skills 🫶🏽😬

Omgosh I just read the pages you sent. I’m going to try this and have the new nanny do it as well. I’d say he is somewhat great at putting down to nap except the past 2 days. You may have just saved our naps!! Thank you SO much! 🙏

You’re welcome!! It works almost everytime! I put my hand on her chest and move the swivel bassinet from
Side to side pretty quickly and softly sing one round of twinkle twinkle.. I’ve found doing that for like 5-10 mins will get her to sleep another sleep cycle.

That ob defeats the goal of her learning to put herself back to sleep but apparently doing this a few times will get their brain used to falling back asleep during a nap and having longer ones.

Without it the sleep drive is too low and it’s too difficult to go back to sleep on their own…

Would love to hear how it goes

sooo we did it!! Since he sleeps in the crib, I patted the mattress and he didn’t even wake!! You helped so much! Trying it again now 😬🙏🙏🙏

Ohh so he immediately went back to sleep? Yay! My attempt during her third nap failed.. it’s harder in the afternoon because the sleep drive is much lower. But it’s def worth a shot glad you had some success

@Nadia lol my lil guy doesn't like being in the carrier initially. He typically settles in and has a good nap😊

yes which is so rare for him!! His eyes close right away lol. I’m going to try throughout the day to see which nap gets extended the longest

Yaaaaaayyyyyyyy!!

haha yes I gotta let him scream a little but then he gets better!

Still having success? I’m unsure whether I want to continue. I’ve extended her first and second nap today but since I started doing this she cries after 40mins during her bedtime sleep (never used to do this never ever ever). I’m
Worried I’ve created a sleep crutch by extending her naps????

I haven’t after that first day! Is she 3 months? My baby has been waking up every 2-3 hours now And he would usually go 5 and half hours. I’m sure it’s a growth spurt! And mines teething bad lol