Biggest Struggle?

Hey lovely women!

I am curious, what has been your biggest struggle with you mental health since being become a mother or starting you journey to motherhood?

How have you managed it? Or are you still looking for ways to cope with it?

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Truth!

I think for me one of the biggest struggles has been managing my own expectation and comparison!

Not being able to be a SAHM - I have to go back to work when my boy turns 1 and I feel horrible about it ☹️

I work outside the home too, and it’s a conflict a lot of days. I absolutely love my job, and don’t really want to be a SAHM but I miss the time with her and struggle with jealousy sometimes seeing all my SAHM friends hanging out so much more often than I am able. ❤️

I just feel awful for my boy… he’s so clingy with me and very frightened of anyone else and I’m scared he’ll be traumatised when he gets left at daycare 😔
I would happily forgo my dream job to stay at home with him purely because it would make him happy

I feel that! Take it slow and maybe talk with your daycare or sitter about slowly starting (I’m not sure how much left of your leave you have.) Maybe visit together for a bit, then leave him for 30-1 hour. Then try half day, and build up to full day.
My girl enjoy her daycare and she learns so much!
Feel free to message me if you want to talk some more about it.

thank you dear! ❤️

I don't know that I have a biggest; just some of them are general anxiety about the future, trying to keep up physically affects me mentally (pregnancy with a toddler is so much more work). I really miss being social with pre-baby friends too, while I love my new mom friends, I have really lost touch with friends I have years of history with.

in our community

Can someone pls help i keep making this post and nobody is responding

My boyfriend booked a trip for us to go to mexico for a week as my push present. I have severe anxiety leaving my 7 month old with my mom. I know she will be in good hands but she’s exclusively breast fed for the most part but accepts bottles just fine. i have all my pumping parts packed and will pump when baby normally eats but i don’t want baby to forget me or have latch issues when i return!! any mommas ever experience this?

Postpartum

I’m only 3 days postpartum (FTM) and already have extremely bad anxiety. I’m crying every night, as I think of another night of no sleep. My baby will not settle in his cot, he cries every moment we put him down unless in his chair rocker. So me and my partner are having to alternate after 3/4 hours of being awake with him downstairs. I’m trying everything to get him to settle. It’s a load of overwhelming stress. I’m 23, I was desperate for a baby and now I have one and feel completely useless. I miss it just being me and my partner.

When does it get better?

I was crying on the phone with the perinatal mental health team today and the lovely lady, bless her, kept assuring me that it gets better. I kept telling her I hope so because people have been saying that since having my LO and it just feels like it keeps getting worse. She assured me it gets better....

Night time routine

Heya, my 3 week old daughter is currently exclusively breastfed and I’m not pumping. Can anyone recommend the best way to share the load with my partner? At the moment I’m doing all the feeds/burbs/settling and my partner is sleeping through which obviously isn’t sustainable, I’m trying to work out the best way to get him involved. Any advice very much appreciated!

Rant/WWYD

My sister (youngest, 24) has two kids, 4 & 1, and i (oldest, 30) just have my one who’s 6mo old right now, so i ask her for advice or call her to vent about things sometimes. Well im tired of her turning around and telling my other family members that I’m “losing my sh*t.” Literally have not lost my sh*t nor have i ever freaked out to her about my baby, i just call her to talk and tell her what stage my baby is in or talk through how im feeling, but she chooses to tell people that im like a complete nutcase or something which worries me that my family is going to start being judgmental about me as a mother or looking at me funny like I’m some fragile ticking time bomb.

What would you do in this situation? I’m already pretty much decided that I’ll stop telling her anything about my struggles, but I’m almost at the point where i feel like it should be confronted because she, of all people, should understand what I’m going through.

Can someone speak on drug screening and c section?

I smoked all through my first pregnancy and tested positive didn’t have any issues a social worker came in and spoke to me and hubby and that was it but this time I’m having an elective c section and wondering did they drug test you there?