Tantrums

My 14 months girl has been throwing tantrums recently over a lot of things.. for example if she is playing with something thats a bit dangerous or dirty (like stones in the street) and i have to take it away from her and we leave .. or taking something from people visiting us ( their phone for example) and holding it and i have to take it away and give back to people.. she cries and screams and gets really angry
I want to know how to deal with these things in the right way please?? I have read about some ways like saying bye to the playground when we re leaving.. but that doesn’t apply to everything.. what do you do with your little ones?

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I mean, part of it is just developmentally appropriate, so just acknowledging her feelings and comforting her. Like hug her and explain I know it's really hard when we have to give back someone's phone. You really wanted to play with that, but it's not yours. How about we play with x instead. And offer something else. Another thing I do a lot, is I act like I was looking for whatever the thing she has is. Like a phone or remote: omg you found it! Thank you so much!!! And just hold your hand out and a lot of time they are excited to help and will just hand it over. Then just make sure to keep saying thank you, I was looking for it, etc for another minute or 2 while redirecting to some other activity or toy so they forget the other thing. Then hide the other thing so they dont want to get it again.

My little girl is like this too It depends what she is doing if it's out of frustration because she can't get something then I will help her and talk to her but she does throw a tantrum if she can't get away with stuff and I simply remove her from it speak to her to why I have removed her (not that she probably understands) but want to get her in the habit of realising and I just walk away until she has calmed down then she either comes to me for a hug and kiss or I go to her x

My 14 month old daughter is like this she throws tantrums when she doesn’t get her own way it’s terrible 2s at the age of 1 tbh they will soon grow out of it it’s just a phase my daughter also hits me and pull my hair I just tell her off just keep telling her off nice and calmly at this age they don’t know from right or wrong xx

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I'm struggling. Have been for a while. I've had one break from parenting my daughter, that was for 3 hours in December when I left her with her dad.

She's 14 months old and I'm just tired. I've done every night by myself. He's out of bed at 4am and doesn't get home until 7-9pm. He drives for work, very physically tiring.
On the weekends he was doing 6 days, one weekend day off, but now has both off.

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Today he went to football after going shopping, so was out 1-3 and then from 4-8.
He got back and I was snappy.

"I don't get why you're so snappy with me"

I said - Probably because I haven't had a break since December.

"Do you think I don't know you haven't had a break. I haven't had a break", "I just won't go to work, I'll sit at home all day".

Then "do you think I like not having a connection to my child"... But that's on him? He never sits to play with her. He "doesn't see the point". He's stated that this age is boring to him.

Since she's been born, he has been to a friend's once a month. Football - He stopped going for 7months, but has been the last two weekends.

Are these not breaks?

He does do the washing/washing up/cooking/vacuuming when I haven't had a chance to; but I'm the one in charge of feeding her, naps/bedtime, teeth brushing, hair brushing, baths, dressing her, making sure she has the right shoes, appointments etc. Everything falls on me.

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