Too anxious to sleep

My baby was born on Saturday so he is now 5 days old. I’m probably just being hit with the hormone tsunami right now but I’m struggling with so much anxiety.
Me and my partner are trying to take things in shifts - baby currently won’t sleep at night unless he’s being held. My partner tries to insist on me going to bed for a few hours over night but I don’t want to leave my baby. I trust my partner totally and he’s amazing with our baby but I just can’t stand to take my eyes off him ever. I just want to make sure he’s safe at all times.
Is anyone else feeling anything like this?

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Is this your first baby? I was very much like this when I had my first.have you tried swaddling? Xx

Very very normal. You’re doing amazingly. Baby is healthy and happy, he’s just getting used to things too.

Newborns take a while to understand night and day. Try to make the house busy and noisy during the day / super quiet at night. His body will start to adjust and get into a rhythm.

I felt exactly like this with my first. You are definitely in prime hormonal phase of post partum, which doesn't make it feel any better, but you might find your anxiety settles a little over time. Also having a baby is a shock to the system! All the love and change and broken sleep is such a whirlwind. I had post psrtum anxiety with my first, so if you find it festers and doesn't pass, do mention it and talk about it -it is very common! Xx

Thank you everyone. It’s nice to know I’m not just going mad!
I think I will try swaddling him at night to see how we go, it might make me feel better if I know he’s more settled at night!

My son was born on Saturday as well and he’s the EXACT same way. I haven’t slept more than 2 hours total since he’s been born due to him needing me to hold him. I have the same anxiety too but I told my husband he’s going to have to take over an hour or two at night so I can get some sleep for my mental and physical health. We’re no good to our babies on no sleep. Baby will be fine, he needs daddy too. You got this!

my other half wants to take the night shifts with baby, it’s me who is reluctant! For no reason other than I don’t really want to share him 😂

You have a great husband then! Maybe try every other feeding and see if maybe that will work for you. It’s hard sharing your baby but totally worth it when you see your husband and son have a close bond

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