Terrible 2’s…

Feeling so guilty and sad tonight. I’m currently 12 weeks pregnant and am really struggling with my almost 2 year old. I find he just cries/whines constantly, he is biting us (when playing) and just generally has a fit if he doesn’t get his own way or if I don’t drop what I’m doing in a heartbeat, to go play etc. we’ve also got a puppy who has been so naughty today, whilst working from home and having them both here I’ve been close to tears. Feel like I’m not doing enough or doing the right things with him for him to be acting like this it’s so out of character

Is anyone else struggling with behaviour at the minute with their toddlers. X

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Meeee... my toddler has become so naughty... the cat is naughty... I'm losing my sh*t.
I'm 29 weeks pregnant and it's a battle to stop my toddler from jumping on me, prodding and poking or just keeping her away from my bump.
I'm getting pretty impatient and bad tempered. I don't know what to do.
Let's sit and cry together 🥲

definitely we can cry together! I have just had enough tonight. He has woken up every half an hour since I’ve put him down and I have to work a full day at home tomorrow whilst looking after him/trying to keep him entertained. Hoping this will pass and become easier for us both x

Hi first I am not some amazing Mother Earth type mum at all!! I get irritated very easily But I kept reading about them needing hugs and attention so the last few weeks wen our daughter cries whines and shouts we are trying do you want a cuddle? And she says yes and it seems to help so just sharing in case it works for anyone else xx

My little one has been at this stage for a while, he's almost 22 months so 2 in December ... He literally cries/ whinges at everything like everything is a problem ... Doesn't matter if I try comfort him to validate his feelings he just tries to wriggle away from me and carry on shouting 🙈 luckily he's slowing letting up some days and the past few days have been good days thankfully so I'm hoping he's coming out of it 🤞

Im going through this too its like nothing i do is good enough unless im giving him 100% attention which isnt always possible when you run a home, i do thing given how many of us are dealing with yhe same it must be an age thing like a phase they go through (heres hoping) lets all cry together ❤️

Yesss! It's the sitting down and refusing to walk tantrums 😆 xx

this is me to a T except I’m 20 weeks pregnant but exact same scenario 🤦🏽‍♀️

Thanks for all your replies it’s nice to know I am not alone in this! Today has been better… I’m sure there will be good and bad days xx

I don't know how you're working too! I'm already exhausted being a full time sahm.

I am absolutely exhausted! Luckily work from home, I don’t think I could manage working full time in an office.. bring on maternity leave in March 😂xx

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If yall still giving your kids processed food, pls seek help

I understand not everybody can afford healthy ingredients all the time, but I’m seeing so many moms on social media giving they kids artificial cereals, coffee, frozen pancakes, velveetta Mac and cheese, hot Cheetos, kraft, the list goes on. I’m sorry but are yall not capable of cooking from scratch or ?? On top of that, if you still using canola and vegetable oil in 2026 you gotta stop. Am I the only one that notices this ???

AITA?

This isn't a major issue, just wondering if I'm being a bit of an asshole.

• I do shift work, 5 out of 7 days, full-time.
• My partner works from home (mostly, sometimes he goes into the office) M-F, full-time.

Anyway, whenever I have a day off during the week he gets in his feelings when I make myself food (breakfast and lunch) but not him. His reason is he's working, I'm not - Which is fair but I've asked him how many times on a weekend has he gotten up, on his day off and made me breakfast and a lunch to take with me to work? You guessed it, 0.

So basically, just because I'm at home I don't think the responsibility to feed him should automatically fall on me when he manages to feed himself just fine while I'm at work.

Blw

Hi I am running out off ideas on what to make for Lil 14 month old for breakfast lunch and dinner if anyone have any resipes would be great to try my boy with them

Should I respect his wishes??

I’ve been a SAHM for 4 years now and my husband does a great job providing for our family and we never need for anything. With that i still had to sacrifice some wants like shopping when I want getting my hair and nails done regularly so when I can I try to supplement for my wants and savings by selling my craft items at vendor markets and recently I’ve started donating plasma. Which has been consistent income for me. $125 twice a week. Well my husband has expressed that he doesn’t like me donating plasma. He feels like it’s not worth it to put my body through those conditions for $125. He even went out to sell one of his guns today and gave me all the money and told me “I shouldn’t have to donate plasma no more”. That was so sweet but I disagree. I planned on continuing to donate plasma to save for my kids birthdays thats coming up, a trip we have planned and our anniversary. I don’t know what to do. I finally found something that pays something consistently and my husband is against it. What should I do?

Big vent!

Hi mums.
I'm a first time mum in my 40s to twin boys.They are almost 5 months old and the biggest miracle in my life!
I am struggling!!!
I'm pretty sure I have ppa as my pregnancy was a very high risk and all I remember was crying from anxiety of all the ifs!Thankfully even born at 35 weeks and skinny,didn't need iu time.
My husband is not helping much because he's always too busy with work.He will "look" after them usually between 8pm-12am so I can have a chance to sleep.
He expects me to just sleep when I touch the pillow,even though I hear tje babies crying and him don't really bother because most of the times he'll be on his laptop working.
When I tell him I can't relax to fall asleep because I feel you r neglecting the babies,he says I'm the problem becauae I'm always there with them and don't give them alone time!!
I am angry!!I am furious!!
I can't keep.up.with housework becauae someone alwaya neess me and most of the times they nap I either cook and clean tje kitchen,do laundry or try and take a quick nap.
He doesn't help.around the house,becauae..guess what?always super busy.
I asked him nicely we could clean the house together every Saturday morning so it's easier and quicker for both of us and he said no,because he has a lot of work but probably wants to sleep until 12 or 2.
2 days ago a button of his coat ripped and I told him I'll sew it these days.
Earlier this morning while running late for his work,as always,he weara the coat and told him didn't get the chance to fix the button and sarcastically said..of.course u didn't!!!
I spent all night awake because one of the babies had congested nose and we've been trying to reduce one fees at night.
I wanted to punch him!!He left and I started crying...I cry so much,even at 5 months pp...
I can't go on like this anymoreeeee...
The crying in my ears is constant..my head is always numb..I've gained so much weight and can't find the strength to get back on track..
Even if I try to.find a therapist to just talk,is it gonna help?I really don't know😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

Avoidant husband

I love my husband and he is a good man. We have some issues in our relationship however, as he has an avoidant attachment style (finds romance/intimacy/being emotional difficult). This comes from him having to be independent from a young age and having quite an abusive mother.
The issues in our relationship are mainly around a lack of sex and intimacy. I think the problem is that to feel turned on, I need to feel connected and wanted. My husband (being avoidant) will usually make jokes about being horny whereas I would want to have someone make me feel beautiful/sexy to get in the mood.
It sounds terrible but I've sometimes had dreams about exes that would make me feel this way, and the romance we had (eye contact, intensity, deep words). It makes me feel really guilty but I feel like i'm starved of that. My husband would like a lot more sex but I can't always force myself if I'm not feeling it.
We've spoken a bit about therapy but I know its often really expensive so we probably wouldn't be able to afford it. Do you have any suggestions please? I know that neither of us are wrong in what we want, just different but I'm scared about whether we can fix it or if we're doomed?