How would you deal this this?

Not going to go into details as it would take foreverrrr...
If your MIL was always a nob, but lost her partner and mother within a year of eachother and then was more of a nob during this time... would you ignore it because she's grieving??
Or find it hard because it's how she's always been?

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I would find it difficult to ignore. Losing loved ones is absolutely terrible (my husband is still living, but I did lose my mom a few years ago)...but grief is not an excuse for her to treat you or anyone else like crap. If she can't work through it and learn how to stop taking it out on everyone herself, she needs to look into getting some therapy to help.

No don’t ignore it, bcos she’s already a nob.
Grieving doesn’t mean you can get away with being a cunt!

What is a nob?

that what I was going to say

I’d say distance yourself from her. If you live in the same house then limit your conversations with her. It might be a difficult time for her but you’re not her punching bag. Let someone else deal with her issues not you, she’s your MIL not mom.

infer from context. My guess is an asshole/bitch

Nob=idiot/dumbass etc

But I like version better lol

I mean it’s the right thing to do to give grace to people when they are grieving as people grieve in different ways but if she’s always been mean then I would find it hard and actually would question whether she’s going to use the grief to behave even more poorly

Nob: Derogatory term for a man's penis, typically used as an insult in the UK and Ireland

Nob... "Nobhead" "Dickhead"
Basically she's an asshole yes 😂

Grief is not a reason to treat others poorly 🤷🏼‍♀️. Lost my mum in may and I haven’t treated anybody poorly even though tempers have flared during the aftermath

this!!!
Anger is part of grief so there will be an element of that while she comes to terms with her losses. Should you be the emotional punch bag? No fucking way!! Xx

exactly. Sounds like a MIL witch to me! Like I’ve lost people and I’m always grateful for people caring, not use them as a way to get over it! Xx

Thanks, everyone... I do talk to my family about it, but they just keep telling me to ignore it.
They're not people who like conflict, so the complete opposite to my partners family, which I love... but sometimes I just need to know my feelings are valid and I'm not overreacting x

You’re not at all. But don’t put up with it, life is too short to deal with bullshit! I hope it gets better for you!

nobhead 👍

thanks. I assume British? Lol now I understand

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