Rant incoming!

It’s my LOs first week at nursery and I’ve noticed she is enjoying it. I have been balancing work with her terrible twos and it’s just been a crappy week. But I’ve been relieved she likes it. I was with her the first few days and noticed how much she picked up in the little time she’s been there which makes me so happy. Today was the first time I left her for 2 hours. Before I left the key worker asked if I was ok and I was like yeah no I’m fine it’s nice to have some space, She completely JUDGED ME!! And said “this one’s a different mum” to her colleague. Now this does not mean I do NOT love my daughter but it does mean In the 2 hours I can get some chores done. Of course I am concerned and I am hoping she has a good time but can’t a mum just be a little relaxed she has some time to herself? I hate that she’s judged me and made that comment. Maybe I’m overthinking it but I know I didn’t mean what I said in a harsh way 🤦‍♀️. realised nursery teachers/key workers some times pass a lot of unnecessary comments 😡

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Sorry to hear that! I am a Nursery practitioner myself and we never make such comments inside our setting. Our only focus is your child and making the most of their development! Of course you need time for yourself as well to complete all the chores and anything else you need to do! It is such a relief your little one likes it because it can be stressful for the parents too when they don’t settle easily.

How rude, just ignore her. There’s honestly no winning here- you’re a horrible or cruel mum if you put them in nursery just because you can or want some time apart from little one to get things done, or just to have to yourself- or heaven forbid, if because you actually want and like to go to work… but then you’re an overprotective mum if you choose not to send them at all or if you find the transition as hard as they do.. 🙄

Absolutely you can simultaneously worry and hope she’s enjoying herself, but also enjoy some child free time!

My little boy is really happy at nursery, and I’m really happy that I can continue with my career and contribute financially to our household. Nobody will make me feel bad for doing what I feel is right for him and me. I don’t HAVE to go to work and he doesn’t HAVE to go to nursery, but I choose to do both. ☺️

Ignore her, there was no need for her comment. I work in a nursery and I've heard some staff make comments about parents (to each other, not to parents) and I'm constantly saying stuff to them about it being rude. And it's always the ones that don't have kids so they've got no idea!

I rang in sick yesterday and still sent my girl to nursery cos I needed a break. I wanted to be in a child free zone for a few hours and I LOVED it. Doesn't mean I love my girl any less but I needee time to recharge!

Wow, I don’t know anyone with a 2 year old who doesn’t want a few hours to themselves!!!!

Probably doesn't have children...I worked in a preschool when I didn't have children and despite never making comments, I see now that I had no clue in regards to experience which really helps tbh!
There were parents who would use wrap around care when they were going to walk the dog or go to the gym etc and I used to think to myself omg why would you do that. I now have 2 children and I totally get why you'd do that if you had the money🤣

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