Why don’t moms exchange numbers at the parks anymore?
When I was a kid, any time my mom would take me to the park I would always make a new “best friend” within 10 minutes of getting there and I remember my mom exchanging phone numbers with their mom/dad every time and almost every time we would go to the park or some type of playgroup, my mom would exchange numbers with the parents of whatever kids I played with.
But Since having my own kids, I have never had that happen. And normally when I see my kids playing with other peoples kids I’ll say hi to the parent like “hi how are you?” and they’re normally just like “good thanks!” and they don’t really want to talk after that.
I never see any of the parents talking at the park, they’re either on their phones or just completely ignoring each other. Is it like that everywhere?
Also, I understand as a mom, needing time to just space out/check out and that for some moms and parents, taking their kids to the park is their time to just space out and turn off their very busy minds.
I get that, but in my 4 1/2 years of being a mom , I never see any parents talking at the park or exchanging numbers and I have never exchanged numbers with any parents at any of the events or play groups I have been to and I never see any other parents doing it either. It just feels like as a society we are so disconnected to one another!
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I talk and I give and get numbers. I’m the change I want to see. I also acknowledge I won’t gel with everyone and that’s perfect.
You are so right. I'm shy and never been the outgoing/friend-making type 😬
You’re so right. Lol. I’m the type of mom that will ask but never follow up on play dates. 🤦🏽♀️
Now a days it’s hard to trust people
i wish that it was still like this!
I do 😂 if I have a connection I have no issue, but now a days I meet more people on Facebook groups so we are friends on Facebook first
I dont exchange numbers but I always talk to other parents at the park of library. My daughter is only one though, I feel like I see parents with babies talk more than parents with older children
Personally it's because I'm an introvert waiting for someone to adopt me 🤣😅
For me anxiety stops me
I'm with you girl!! I want to have mom friends as well as friends for my boys. I go out my way to talk and get the same. It's very sad and disheartening. We expect our kids to be friends and friendly but what about the parents!? What kind of example are we setting by being this way at the park?
If it's just me and one other mom, I'm more likely to exchange numbers. I've gotten 2 since we recently moved to a different state!
facts!
I have had a few short but good conversations with moms at library events and group classes and as much as I would love to have kept in touch it just felt awkward asking for contact info because we were in a group setting.
When I approach moms one on one at the park it has never once gone well. I usually get a look of "why are you talking to me?" Or just brief 1 word answers that make it obvious they don't want to chat.
I have been lucky to meet a Mom friend on this app and I also have some old friends with older children that my kiddo loves to play with. I do feel that using an app like this is easier sometimes than in person because you know up front that you are both looking for a friend.
I tried this and was denied ... never did it again
I give my number out to basically any mom that my kids are friendly with or try to play with on a daily basis my way of thinking is that what's the harm in giving out your number what are they going to do just throw it out or maybe they'll actually text you so I tend to go towards thinking positively and say fuck it I'm just going to give out my phone number to whatever my friends I have or want to make and pray for the best
I totally agree! Every time I start a conversation, it's either like an interview or there's no response that's why I downloaded peanut!
Peanut can b like that too sometimes
Unfortunately, that's also true...
I'm sry to admit it but I had to say it
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