Does anyone else just feel completely disgusted and annoyed by their partner, now that you're pregnant?

I feel so guilty, but mostly since the start of this week (week 7 for me), I've just wanted nothing to do with my fiancé most of the time. He's so sweet and attentive and keeps asking me what he can do to help, but I often feel like I have to bite my tongue from angrily telling him to just leave me alone. Like all I've wanted this week is to just be alone. I don't mind talking to each other during the day. We still crack jokes together as usual and talk about life. I also don't mind giving quick hugs and kisses, but the problem is, the longer I've been pregnant, the less I've been able to tolerate physical affection for long periods of time. That being said, I'm most annoyed at him while we're in bed, which often feels like all the time because I work so much. He just always wants to cuddle and be right next to me, and lately, the thought of that lasting over 5 minutes completely urks me. I love him dearly, but he's so much bigger than me, so when he wraps around me, it's just way too hot because my body temperature is already warmer as is while pregnant, and sometimes I'm really nauseous and I start to feel vomit in my throat if he accidentally shifts me the wrong way. His stubble is also really itchy, and somehow, no matter what position we're cuddling in, he always ends of laying on my hair, which ends up really painfully pulling it. So lately, I've been dreading sleeping in bed together because I know he's going to want to cuddle, and I know his feelings are going to be hurt when I don't want to cuddle after only a short period of time. I just feel so bad because I don't want to make him feel unloved, but I just have so little desire to be touched the further I get into my pregnancy, and when I try to be physically affectionate for his sake, it's just so uncomfortable for me. Anyone else struggling with this sort of thing?

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Well you’ve a long time to go. Think there’s a lot of people who’d love to be in your situation and have such a loving and supportive partner. I’m telling you now, when you’re 7 months pregnant you’ll love the fact they want to do so much and be so attentive. The fact my fiancé was like your partner got me through my pregnancy and I was so thankful for how easy he tried to make things for me.

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You're right, I am very lucky. He's a great man. I just feel bad because I've been struggling to feel appreciative with how irritable I've felt lately. I haven't felt like my typical cheery self. I usually love to cuddle with him.

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Hi it’s okay I’m going through the same thing with my partner right now, I told him last night about how I felt and it made me feel a bit better because he even told me he could feel me pulling away but only after I spoke to him but he’s understanding. I’m sure your partner will be understanding as he sounds like he loves you a lot, just tell him how you truly feel and it’s not that you mean to feel that way but you just do and you feel like you can’t help it, as your body is doing a lot right now. The hormones for me right now are all over the place, I told my partner sometimes I want u here and sometimes I don’t, sometimes I can’t stand you touching me, breathing on me, or even kissing me and it’s not that I don’t love you because I do and it’s not that I don’t want ur affection because really and truly I do but I’m still trying to get used to the changes going on within my body. And I just can’t control it. But being open about how you feel is better than struggling with it alone

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Trust me I’m very irritable right now, but it’s all about being understanding and patient, i doubt you’ll feel like this your whole pregnancy, I think it comes in waves, but this is my first pregnancy so I ain’t 100% sure, I’m still figuring it out myself. I only recently started getting irritable with him, our baby’s due in March x

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I just don't really want to be touched or to be intimate. A hug and a kiss are okay, but anything longer than a couple of minutes and I feel like I'm being smothered. Instead, I want to be super cuddly with my dog, who is my baby. It kind of makes sense, imo, because mating mode is turned off, and maternal mode is turned on.

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Definitely talk to him about it. Forcing yourself to be affectionate will create resentment and either way he will start to notice you pulling away. Its great that he's such a sweet teddybear but you don't need or want that right now and that's okay too. I would go with Trina's advice on the matter. Communication and honesty are always the best way even if they hurt a bit. Good luck!
PS scratchy stubble IS annoying haha

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This hasn't stopped for me and I'm 4 months postpartum with my second. We both miss each other dearly because I just cannot stand affection or intimacy anymore, it's horrible but he is trying to be understanding and accommodating. He now just offers out his hand to be held instead of a full blown cuddle on the settee or just waits for me to initiate bless him. Kissing has just turnes into little pecks here and there. Makes me feel like crap because he is so lovely and amazing. I hope it stops for you once little one comes along 🤞

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One uncomfortable conversation is worth weeks of understanding and peace ✌️

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I’m so anxious to know if you are pregnant with a little girl. I was like that pregnant with my girl but not my boy for some reason. So interesting

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Yes I don’t want to be touched by him or anything

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I went thru this with all my pregnancies. This is number 4 for me. I'm 6 weeks and 1 day i think today. I had these feelings with all my babies. It sucks because you hate the feeling. So frustrating. Esp when you know your partner is trying to do his best to comfort you. I do ALOT of explaining. Communication goes a long way.
Think he if pulled away cause he was in a different head space. He felt bad. But didn't share it with you.
All you would or could know is that you feel him pushing away. Not knowing why makes the mind run wild. Talk to him. Explain the hormones and your temperature being higher. All of what you said is exactly where I was. Even him swallowing or burping would upset me cause I was so pukey. But also understand its your hormones and body reacting this way so you are the only one who can seemingly explain the best. Just breath and sit down and talk to him. He is probably just confused and feels pushed away.

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He sounds alot like how my partner was and if so he will be understanding. It always helps to also Google search these symptoms and show him your not the only one. I can't speak for anyone else but you can even show him my response. It's such a conflicting feeling cause you can have such deep love and feel this way at the same time. It makes us feel guilty. Hugs mommas. It does get better. Communication is step one and a big step at that! ❤️ I hope this helps. Good luck hun

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Thank you all! Everyone's comments helped so much! Made me feel a lot less alone and helped reassure me that I'm not just a mean and ungrateful partner. I talked to my fiancé about it as soon as we were both awake. We both shared our feelings openly, and I apologized for how much I'd been pulling away, and explained how pregnancy has been negatively affecting my mood and comfortability with intimacy. He was super understanding about it and was thankful that I opened up. So I'm sure I'll still have my struggles here and there, but as of right now, all is well in my relationship again. Thank you all so much!! I really appreciate your help and input ❤️

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YESSS omg yes

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I feel the same way, i think it's just the hormones. I feel sick sometimes too and I smell my boyfriend and maybe it's his pheromones. Maybe just tell him how you feel, he'll be upset but second trimester I read, will be much better

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Yes but me and mine are not getting along . This is his first child and he don’t know how to attend to me and it just irritates me as well . I don’t like him right now

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