Advice Please

I really need some advice, I feel like I’m just not doing enough for my soon to be 5 month old. What kind of activities do y’all do with your babies to keep them entertained/tire them out? I want to be more active with him but I feel like what I’m currently doing just isn’t enough. I do plenty tummy time, I talk to him, I hand him toys to teeth/play with, I give him positive encouragement… I’ve been really tired lately so that also isn’t helping. Any recommendations? FTM as well

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You are probably doing great and plenty enough. It is good also for baby to have some time where he is not stimulated and just observe the world around him, you etc.

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It sounds like you are doing a great job!! It’s so stimulating for babies to just see the world around them, so watching you, listening to you, maybe getting out on a walk, are all great things!

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I agree with Marie & Erin 👍🏾

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honestly y’all don’t know how much I needed this, I’ve been feeling like a horrible mother lately because I just don’t know what all to do yet. Thank you so much 😢 and I actually took him on a little hour walk yesterday which was nice ❤️ he’s the happiest baby alive, all he does is smile. I just was worried I wasn’t doing enough for his development.

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Making him happy is the most important right now! His brain is processing so much information. You're a great mom!

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I think you’re doing a great job. One thing that helps me and my 5 month old twin girls is heading out to the park in the morning for a little walk

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I always notice growth after going to mama and baby classes, my baby see other older babies doing things and the next few days seems to have learned a something from them. Check out you local library.

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I do about the same as well with my 4 month old. I'm starting to realize babies need quiet time as well and I put her star projector up before bed time just so she can calm down. You're doing great mama! The point that your asking means you are already trying to do better 🩵

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I definitely think checking out the local library would be a great idea, I’m just so scared of baby boy getting sick. I appreciate everyone’s sweet informative responses 🥰 I just want to give him the best possible chance to excel and be as happy as he can be

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We do the swing, bouncy activity center, playing on her two different mats, listening g to music with Gracie’s Corner, walks, library story time, visiting family and friends, stories, playing with different toys

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that makes me feel so much better. I just see so many TikTok videos of people doing a million+ things with their babies younger than him and it makes me feel as though I’m not doing enough for his development and whatnot but all these comments are making me realize not everyone does more than what I’m doing now. I feel so much better

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I’ll be completely honest with you and say that my baby spends a good part of his day on a blanket in the living room with a couple toys, or on his fisher price play mat and he seems happy but I wonder the same thing!

I try and take him places like the mall or library by my house or my friends houses, or just around the block but that’s only part of the day.
Yesterday we played in some crunchy leaves outside that was fun! I literally just layed him down in them haha

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I literally walked across the street to my CVS yesterday with my baby in my carrier and showed her things in the store 😂 opened up and read her cards, let her feel stuffed animals, went down the nail polish aisle, showed her light up Halloween decorations 😂

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Hey mama, I feel like we all are so hard on ourselves. My little girl is also five months old in about a week and sometimes I feel the same way. But honestly everything you’re doing is perfect and I do the same thing. You’re doing amazing.

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You’re doing great! Babies need to be bored sometimes too.

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I honestly think some people do to much like being a baby is not a job, they don't have to be "active" all the time. Sometimes just sitting and observing is fine.

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Everyone here sounds like such beautiful parents. I’m so thankful for this app, it really shows that half of us are feeling the same way yet feel so alone (at least for me sometimes). These go right back at yall, y’all are doing just as amazing 🥰🥰 I love the idea of bringing them to a drug store and showing them stuff that’s precious. I’d love to put him in some leaves and let him play but I’m in the “everything goes in my mouth” phase 🤣🤣 if he can touch it-grab it- and lift it? Mouth. 😭

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oh he definitely tried to eat some hahaha but it was okay! I just took them out of his hands when he tried

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MY HEART he’s so cute 😭😭😭😭

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girl there is so much push it feels like for babies to be doing all the things. Really all they need is milk, mama snuggles, and clean diapers imo. Ur keeping him alive and he sounds happy so ur doing great!

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