What's everyone's plans on Christmas day

Most of us that will have a baby by Christmas day what are your plans if you have any?

I currently live with my partner and his parents so obviously will be expected to spend the day with them and having a newborn I'm not even sure what I'm doing yet....I'd like to see my family too but I don't want to be having too many people around me and the baby I'm not sure what to do

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I'm due on the 23rd. I plan to do as little as possible, as I'm either going to be 40w pregnant, or have a newborn to contend with.
Depending on the situation, we've said people can come to us (this will depend on whether he is here or not, whether we're both healthy, whether the people visiting are healthy etc etc).
Partner and I plan to very much have a Christmas just us two/three. We have family local who have kindly offered to run us down a Christmas dinner and we may facetime them all, but that depends as well as to how sleep deprived we are.
If little man isn't here yet, and I feel up to it, I may visit local family, but this is to he confirmed and no-one is expecting us to visit them.

My family always come down Christmas Eve (they live too far away).

We spend Christmas morning in our house (opening all presents other than those from in laws) and then go to my in laws for Christmas dinner and opening presents.

Boxing Day my in laws come to our house for round two. Dinner and party food.

I am due the 4th Jan and if I opt for a c-section it will be the 28th Dec onwards. Although the baby could come any time. I have a toddler too.

I honestly hope my LO doesn’t come any of those days as I would be raging to miss out 🤣🤣🤣 My last pregnancy we found out on Christmas Eve so unsure how I will cope being considered full term.

It’s honestly the best time of the year 🥰

I would just invite your family over and just make sure no one kisses the baby or I’ll before coming and it will be ok.

Sorry you're feeling torn! With you having the baby hopefully you'll be well looked after and not expected to do loads physically or emotionally. My EDD is the 12th and husband and I are lucky enough to be living on our own so we've said to each set of parents they'll be welcome to pop up to us for a little while for a cuppa or some breakfast but we're not dragging me or the wee one around to do the usual Christmas tour. This suits hubby as he dislikes fuss and he's always wanted to phone in a takeaway on Christmas day 😂 Would your partner's family be welcoming to your closest family even for a wee while?

I shall be sitting in a chair holding baby and have everyone else running around after me like I'm the f-ing queen! Other half's parents and gran always come to us and other half does the cooking anyway! Might have a glass or 2 of champagne. If I can't be arsed to get dressed or make myself look presentable.... so be it.

I'm due on the 14th & am deffo planning on doing as little as possible. We haven't made any plans as such yet, I'm hoping to be able to go to both sets of parents and have them cook for us! I'm planning on sitting on the sofa having cuddles & prosecco! X

this is a fantastic plan!!

Due on the 4th. We are hoping to get to family for Christmas (they live in the south of England we live in Scotland!!) but we are going chilled and just seeing what happens. If we make it down, I’ll be seated firmly on the sofa whilst someone feeds me cheese 😂 x

This is the biggest question on my mind, that has been giving me so much anxiety. Do we go to family? Or do family come to us? I’m due on the 18th Dec but more likely going to be last week of November because I’m high risk.

I’m due on the 27th. And I’ll be spending it at my parents they only live a few mins drive away. If she comes a little early then I might be taking her round, would have to see how we feel at the time. I should still be pregnant, and I’ll be at my mums. My bf may be working depending on what happens

yes!!! 🤣🤣
Plans the same. I have elected c section so most likely be around 20th.... the plans to chill out, watch the kids open their pressies, hubby on Xmas dinner duty. I am just going observe this year.
We don't have family nearby but have told his they are welcome to come stay but we won't be traveling to them and my lot are going come to us a few days after Xmas for Xmas no 2.... my dad's bringing the food 🤣

Normally for me I see my mum every boxing day as its her birthday but this year we will just be seeing how it goes. I'm due 11th but no one really knows when baby will arrive so its a play it by ear. We are also moving on the 20th October but our new flat wouldn't be big enough for everyone on Christmas day unless we rearrange the front room so that's not been decided yet. X

We have no plans for Christmas Day this year, we don’t want visitors and we don’t want to travel around to see family so we’re just staying at home. We’ll do Christmas visits sometimes after Christmas.

Not a lot, I will be recovering after a c section, so my partner is in charge 😅 I plan to stay in my comfy pjs and my partners dad is coming over for dinner as he is on his own, the rest of the family we will see before baby or in the new year.

Me & my partner live with his mum. So we will be there for a few hours Christmas morning before dropping her off at my partners sisters for day then where going to my parents for dinner and few hours 🩷

I really don’t know myself, I’m due the 15th Dec but I fully expect to go overdue 😅😂, I’m really hoping my baby boy is here before Christmas Day, but I plan on staying home to recover and chill and having close family pop in to us (and hopefully cooking us an Xmas dinner!). It’s so hard to know and plan because baby can come whenever they please! 😅😂 xx

I am due the 19th and we’ve decided to have our own Xmas at home, just us. We usually have both sets of parents and partner cooks but we’ve said we aren’t cooking for anyone this year but they can pop in at some point on the day. I will either be ready to burst or already have the baby at home and I already have a daughter so we just want a quiet Christmas this year xx

We have been insisting we host Xmas Dinner, as my partner likes cooking and we feel more comfortable planning to stay in, as we don't know exactly when baby is coming (due 13th).
My mother will be staying with us too. His parents on the other hand are insisting we come join them, that it will be easier as it'll be soooo hard to host with new baby.
But then they also say newborns are really easy and life goes on as normal.... we are peeved and may end up just being us for Xmas at this rate. I'm not mad about it tbh. They keep saying they don't want to babysit and are leaving the country so.. fine. Have it your way

I've said if they think it'll be so hard they can bring something foodwise but they just insist it'll be a disaster... but also that we need to start planning to just do things anyway as baby is part of family now etc and so on.. #rantover

We are due on the 6th and are off to the in-laws for Christmas dinner with family, they only live a 5min drive away so it’s nothing too much in terms of travel. We then go back on Boxing Day for a buffet spread & board games. It’s the best couple of days! I can’t wait to do it with another little one with us this year 🥰

Due on 4th and for the first time ever we will be doing Christmas Day as a 2 (with baby). We will also be having a meal out on Christmas Day, rather than a home-cooked dinner, a first for both of us. Keeps it minimal stress. Usually I go to my parents' who are around the corner and he will go to his, who live abroad, for a few days. A lot of change for us this year x

I’m due 24th so we’ll be at home. Baby could be here so that’ll be the 3 of us or it’ll be just us 2 on standby. I don’t mind this as we’d have to go to my boyfriend’s grandparents and they chain smoke so it’s a good excuse to not be around all that

I was meant to be hosting Christmas this year (my family takes it in turns), however I’ll be 39+1, in hospital or have a newborn. So my sister is hosting instead.

We will spend the morning at our house and then go to my sisters for what is likely to be very small diner and hope I don’t then decide to go into labour. Either way my husband is aware he’s on standby and my hospital bag will be living in the car.

If i’m in hospital it really depends what stage i’m at.

The joys of being due around Christmas x

I'm due the 25th and not allowed to go over so hopefully baby will come just before Christmas day havent even thought about Christmas x

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Ok so for starters i know some of you are going to say omg omg omg super controlling omg leave omg. No im not doing that. Im happy he finally admitted his wrong doing and taking accountability for it but id like to know the deeper reason, the what the f has him thinking like this reason, the personality trait reason. He’s obviously scared I’m going to leave him; so much so that he’s doing this dumb shit to prevent it. Past trauma? What do y’all think I can do to get him to see I’m not going anywhere? I’m consistent already, I married him, we have a baby. He really is the love of my life. I have never loved another man like this before.. but this shit is for the birds and he thinks he’s keeping me doing this but in actuality it’s making me lose respect and detach.

worried about a family members baby

So this child is three months old and she isn’t being fed from 10pm till 6/7 am idk if this is normal or safe and it’s been like this since 2 months i believe as she won’t wake her for feeds she goes to the pub drinking most nights with her baby and her baby has already been in hospital with a very low temperature bc she was outside but as soon as she was in a warm car she warmed up and doctors said she was fine she lets cats play with her bouncers toys that go over her and doesn’t strap her in she is cold from what i’ve heard from other family members and they’ve tried to warm her hands and she’s wet herself at my parents and she hasn’t had a spare vest to put on her and i offered her a blanket as she didn’t have one and she declined and she won’t listen to anyone about it she’s already left the baby with my parents for the night to go out drinking and personally i couldn’t leave my three month old because my parents said she just cried and im really unsure whether to report her or not and her house smells of dog wee/poo as she’s never home to look after them and that’s not safe for the baby i understand being lonely but she doesn’t need to go to the pub every night her friends could
go
to hers or her she could go to a cafe that has closed doors not sat outside a cold pub and it’s a bit of a rough pub in my opinion

my parents are concerned btw but they say i shouldn’t report her as it’s not fair but i feel how the baby is treated isn’t fair

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Help!!!

Am I wrong if I secide to stop doing baths etc for my little ones. We have a 3 and 1 year old. I do all the baths wake up in ams cooking etc. I dont want them to be dirty but it's like I need a break and Im tired of doing it all by myself. He will come up and help after they are out the tub every now and then and that pisses me off. Im taking care of 2 littles one by myself makes no sense. I asked him to give them baths tonight he said I worked all day what did you do...ive had the children all day. We went to church he didn't go. We all know how little ones are.. but what should I do bcus it feels like I'm going crazy

Partner works incredibly long hours, how much do they help out?

I'm struggling. Have been for a while. I've had one break from parenting my daughter, that was for 3 hours in December when I left her with her dad.

She's 14 months old and I'm just tired. I've done every night by myself. He's out of bed at 4am and doesn't get home until 7-9pm. He drives for work, very physically tiring.
On the weekends he was doing 6 days, one weekend day off, but now has both off.

He doesn't sit on the floor and play with her, he doesn't read to her because he says she doesn't have the patience.
He will pick her up and hold her whilst he's cooking.

Recently I've been "snappy" with him.
He got back from the mechanic last weekend, she was getting onto the sofa and he put his headphones on and started to watch Netflix on his phone.
The same day I told him I was going to run her bath and to watch her whilst she was still eating, he fell asleep on the sofa.

Today he went to football after going shopping, so was out 1-3 and then from 4-8.
He got back and I was snappy.

"I don't get why you're so snappy with me"

I said - Probably because I haven't had a break since December.

"Do you think I don't know you haven't had a break. I haven't had a break", "I just won't go to work, I'll sit at home all day".

Then "do you think I like not having a connection to my child"... But that's on him? He never sits to play with her. He "doesn't see the point". He's stated that this age is boring to him.

Since she's been born, he has been to a friend's once a month. Football - He stopped going for 7months, but has been the last two weekends.

Are these not breaks?

He does do the washing/washing up/cooking/vacuuming when I haven't had a chance to; but I'm the one in charge of feeding her, naps/bedtime, teeth brushing, hair brushing, baths, dressing her, making sure she has the right shoes, appointments etc. Everything falls on me.

If your partner works ridiculously long hours, how much do they look after your child? Do you ever get a break?