Feeling so alone…

Anyone else a SAHM living off one income? Inflation has really suffocated us to the point of having to move out of our rental and currently me, my husband, and our 3 kids are living with my in laws. Putting the kids in childcare would essentially make me working pointless, as all my income would go towards childcare and my husband makes a decent amount but it just seems like it’s never enough. I feel like we have to chose between one of us working insane hours and never getting time with our kids, or living with our parents for the rest of our lives….

It feels like we’re the only ones suffocating and everyone else is able to make it work somehow, I just feel so alone and like there’s some secret I’m missing out on. How does everyone do it??

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Im in generally the same boat me and my partner and child are all sharing a room in a house we rent with other house mates and we barely manage to get by

It's hard honestly. We can't even live together because we're not married yet and my family is old fashioned. He comes here after work for a few hours to help and then he has to go home. It's been really hard on us and we wish we could move out but it's looking possible

I feel you, me and my family have been basically homeless for almost a whole year since we don't have anyone to stay with like that. Tomorrow we're moving into a space we're renting in someone's house, a room and an upstairs living room. But we don't even have money for a bed or anything so we're gonna be sleeping on the floor

Same boat!! We live with my mom and honestly it helps her out too. My boyfriend works full time and I work one day a week and we still struggle to have anything left over to save or support larger purchases. The double edged sword of it all. I was thinking of trying to work from home but how can you actually do that while caring for a small child?!?

I feel that and most jobs won't hire you once they know so I'm just trying to somehow start my own business, from literally $0 🫠 it's not going well so far

Yes! I’ve thought the same thing. I can barely find time to shower, etc. let alone a work from home job…even part time idk how I’d do it 🤦🏻‍♀️🤪

On the same boat it’s hard. I’m worried about winter time as my husbands work slows down quite a bit so I’m thinking of looking into a wfh job but so far no luck.

it's gotta be something more self paced! We couldn't realistically be in costumer service on the phone all day

what exactly do you suggest as some fields to look into?? I try researching but everything I find i either need training for, a degree, or prior experience (or it's just unrealistic, like customer service)

I understand that. I recent got a job at a faucet so I could work and have my son at daycare. I only have to pay 75$ every other week.

I also been a stay at home mom since I was pregnant. So I understand the lonelyness. Plus it’s hard bc we only have one car

I genuinely don't know! I know two mom's who work from home and I'm not sure I understand either of their jobs but they both have degrees and I do not

I've been a SAHM basically since we had our 11 yr old. I don't work because all of my paycheck would just go to daycare anyway. It's been hard on a single income, especially since we're in southern California where rent/real estate, gas and taxes are astronomical. I see so many posts from moms in local FB groups saying they just aren't able to make it. Just wanted to say you're not alone, so so many families are drowning in debt. We def live paycheck to paycheck and often have to rely on credit cards, it's a vicious cycle. Idk if there's a secret, I think some ppl are just luckier than others. 😔

You're not alone, our family is struggling too. Everything is too expensive. My husband also wants to have another baby. I want to too I just don't want to struggle with a newborn 😩

Thank you guys❤️ sending love to all of you and hoping things get better for all of us soon ❤️❤️❤️

It's CRAZY how we are literally drowning and the folks older than us just keep telling us to work harder. I am literally to the point of getting an RV and hitting the road. Rent for what. Monthly grocery shopping for what. Someone has to stay at home with my baby so only one person can work. Hoping to find a WFH position fast

Yes!! Husband lost his business went back to a regular job and being a SAHM I started hissing play date for some side income. https://static.junecare.co/share/r/maal25

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wtf moment?

I have been going back and forth with my husband lately. Well not lately it’s been years. He is the best husband and father you could ask for; for two weeks. Then he’s inconsistent. It drives me mad. Then he’s back to husband and dad of the year , then back to same inconsistency. I talked to him about this last night and he said “if i was lovey dovey and acted like this all the time you’d get bored and cheat on me.”

Ok so for starters i know some of you are going to say omg omg omg super controlling omg leave omg. No im not doing that. Im happy he finally admitted his wrong doing and taking accountability for it but id like to know the deeper reason, the what the f has him thinking like this reason, the personality trait reason. He’s obviously scared I’m going to leave him; so much so that he’s doing this dumb shit to prevent it. Past trauma? What do y’all think I can do to get him to see I’m not going anywhere? I’m consistent already, I married him, we have a baby. He really is the love of my life. I have never loved another man like this before.. but this shit is for the birds and he thinks he’s keeping me doing this but in actuality it’s making me lose respect and detach.

Divorced at 5 months PP

My husband just divorced me yesterday.

I'm 5 months post partum and I feel like complete shit. I literally can't stop crying and I don't feel like eating and this whole week my milk supply has gone down due to stress and not eating. What helps with milk supply?

The divorce- on Monday at 5am me and my husband had a small argument on text. It was regarding him not catering to my love language. I sent him a video on how women shouldn't have to ask and how laziness can kill a relationship. We've had many arguments regarding this prior about him not catering to my love language and he doesn't buy me flowers or doesn't think of me. Anyways this night, he text me saying he doesn't do Mother's Day and all that, he doesn't want to buy me flowers because my sisters buy me flowers and he can't be arsed with my moods. He said I've not been his peace and said he's done.
I replied "okay. All I want is for you to appreciate me and love me as your wife and mother of your child. I'm not pushing you away, I'm begging you to love me etc etc. I'm done too."

I come home from my errands that morning and he's upped and left. He took all of his belongings, clothes, drawer, tv- everything.

He didn't ring or text me or anything.

The property is in my name and as he left and didn't leave the key, I changed the locks the next day. I feel this is what pushed him over the edge.

He officially divorced me on Saturday.
I'm 5 months post partum and I have a 5 year old from my ex partner too.

I just want to talk about it with someone that's not biased. Was I asking for too much? I feel he just didn't want to be with me anymore and used this as an excuse? Or is that me overthinking....
Input would be nice xoxo

Partner is giving me the silent treatment

So I was struggling with my postpartum anxiety bad yesterday. My partner and I was out for drinks with family. He kept making jokes about treating me a bit shit.
Which no one thought was funny. I am usually quite patient about him using me as his jokes, but yesterday it hurt.

When we got home I told him it made me feel disrespected. Now he is giving me the cold fat shoulder?! What do I do ?

worried about a family members baby

So this child is three months old and she isn’t being fed from 10pm till 6/7 am idk if this is normal or safe and it’s been like this since 2 months i believe as she won’t wake her for feeds she goes to the pub drinking most nights with her baby and her baby has already been in hospital with a very low temperature bc she was outside but as soon as she was in a warm car she warmed up and doctors said she was fine she lets cats play with her bouncers toys that go over her and doesn’t strap her in she is cold from what i’ve heard from other family members and they’ve tried to warm her hands and she’s wet herself at my parents and she hasn’t had a spare vest to put on her and i offered her a blanket as she didn’t have one and she declined and she won’t listen to anyone about it she’s already left the baby with my parents for the night to go out drinking and personally i couldn’t leave my three month old because my parents said she just cried and im really unsure whether to report her or not and her house smells of dog wee/poo as she’s never home to look after them and that’s not safe for the baby i understand being lonely but she doesn’t need to go to the pub every night her friends could
go
to hers or her she could go to a cafe that has closed doors not sat outside a cold pub and it’s a bit of a rough pub in my opinion

my parents are concerned btw but they say i shouldn’t report her as it’s not fair but i feel how the baby is treated isn’t fair

Forgiving a partner…

Long story short - found out 2 months ago my partner of almost 10 years has slept with two girls, one of which he’s been seeing for 8 months - during this time I was pregnant with our third child and gave birth. (She had an abortion)
I found out, he cut all ties (still works with her)
I want to try and move on from this, we have three children , and a home… I can’t face the idea of being without my children half the time. I want to try and make things work. But I can’t stop the intrusive thoughts / images of the two of them together…. Any advice if you’ve been in a similar situation?
Sick of feeling this rubbish, also 5 month pp so hormones/confidence is in pieces😣😣😣

Does anyone else hate their partner?

I’m now a little over 2 months postpartum and I’ve struggled with genuinely just not liking my partner anymore since we found out I was pregnant last year. I catch myself just staring at him with hatred because I’m so sick and tired of his bullshit. He is just now getting a job and has not had one since THANKSGIVING!!! Meanwhile I was working full time until I finally got too sick to be able to work. I genuinely want him out of my house but I depend on him as far as driving goes bc I don’t have a car. I also still love him deep down and don’t want to put him out on the street but he’s driving me genuinely insane. Any advice?