I can't put my baby down for nothing!

I can't put my baby down without him crying. Even if he's asleep, I lay him down feet first, and he immediately wakes up. He wants to be held 24/7. I can't shower. Cleaning up is out of the question. I pull out whatever I can to eat that doesn't require 2 hands or cooking.
What the absolute f***

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Mine decided this week that he will only nap in my arms, if he’s awake I can sit him down for a few minutes but that’s all I get before he starts crying. Have you tried baby wearing? I got the koala babycare carrier off Amazon and he seems to be content in that, at least I have free hands to do things😅

Totally normal! I’m going through the same right now with my daughter, I actually am currently baby wearing her right now so she can nap and I can also play with my son but one thing I learned with my son is that it’s okay to let your baby cry for a little bit, go take your shower and if you can just have your baby in the bathroom with you so you have a visual of him so you can have a shower and feel somewhat refreshed. I definitely recommend baby wearing for cleaning and making yourself something to eat. Your baby is trying to adjust being outside the womb and it’ll take some time

Felt.

I has to get a carrier 😅

*had

My baby is 5 weeks and I feel this post in the soul, life has been impossible

My baby is the same way and my son was too. They grow out of it eventually but it takes a while.

My baby the same and my oldest was the same and still is. They are both attached to my hip 24/7.

Baby wearing! My son just started letting me put him down a little bit. I have a little thing I lay him in on the floor when he's in his "happy baby" mood while I'm in the shower (he also likes the noise of the shower!)

Same here unless I lay her on her tummy. I eait about 20 mins after she fell asleep on me and then I'll put her down

All you mama's are awesome 💖

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circumcision

are we circumcising our boys? or leaving that to dad?

Routines?

When did you start to introduce your baby’s routine? Do they just have a night routine or full day routine? Wondering when I should start this e.g naps at the same time everyday.

Any routines you have that work for you, please let me know them with timestamps. my baby is 6 weeks and just wondering when we should start them?

Does anyone else’s baby spit up breastmilk but not formula?

I’m seriously considering seeing a lactation consultant because I don’t understand why he can’t hold down breastmilk but can formula. I use soy formula since I’ve used it with my daughter and I’m thinking it might be due to not getting milk coming in for a few days so I had no choice but to give him formula, but now even if I take breaks in between feeding him breastmilk to burp or try to mix breastmilk and formula, he spits it up sooo much. I’m ready to just give him just formula because I’m worried about him not eating enough

I think Motherhood has made me more bitter than I realized…

This is such a ramble but I don’t know where else to put it all.

I’m four months in and I don’t really have hobbies right now. I don’t do anything for myself except maybe doomscrolling or listening to a podcast while I breastfeed my baby. I used to craft and have game nights with friends. Activities that usually are at least 2 hour stretches. Now if I have an hour free my mind immediately goes to baby, or doing something in the house for baby.

And I thought I didn’t mind. Like I knew postpartum could be very mentally consuming. But I think it’s altering how I view people around me and it’s prodding at my relationship with my husband.

He spends most of his time making food for us, looking after our dogs, playing with the baby, ect. But he still has time for his hobby. Spends maybe an hour a night on it. Even adapted to using a bot for shopping for his hobby after a certain incident where we had to have a heart to heart after he left me home alone with the baby for hours during a busy workday (I work from home) to shop for his hobby.

And yet there’s like this little green eyed monster in me that rages every time I know he’s running off to start up the bot. Even though I’m the reason he does it this way.

We took a family trip last weekend to see his best friend and their kids and let them meet the baby. He brought the laptop. He’s always brought a laptop on trips and it’s never been a problem to me before. But one night we both woke up while the baby was still asleep, and he wandered out of the room. I tried to fall back asleep but couldn’t. So I went to the kitchen to try having something warm to drink to settle me. And he was there at the table running the bot from his laptop. I flipped out at him. But there really wasn’t reason to. It’s not like I needed help with the baby and he was ignoring me. He wasn’t avoiding our friends. He was just awake and unable to sleep and found something to do with his time. Yet my snap reaction was “why the hell would you do this on a family trip?”

I don’t know what it is. Maybe it’s the less complete sleep from baby’s middle of the night feed? My brain being just consumed by baby? Maybe I’m not as over that shopping incident as I thought? But I’m just so annoyed at his hobby right now. The green eyed monster thinks “you could be using that time differently” but realistically to do what exactly??? Stare at our baby in the dark???

I spent probably an hour apologizing to him after I snapped. And he’s of course hurt and frustrated because I said some very mean things in the moment.

I don’t want to be this jealous, angry person. But I also don’t know how to find time for myself in this right now outside of basic hygiene. It’s like I’ve forgotten how to be myself, even if just for an hour.

Maybe I need a therapist.

Complicated pp

I’m 4 weeks pp; am I the only one that has a uti and clit kinda went inward?? I’m waiting the 6 weeks but I have used a vibrator and I have a hard time feeling anything

Stroller

Hey,

Baby is getting slightly too heavy for his travel system now.

I was just wondering want strollers people recommended. Thank you