Sending Baby to Daycare

I have a 5 month old and i had no choice but to put him into daycare, and i honestly feel so devastated I’m having so much separation anxiety first of all because i did not like the daycare and it was the only one that would take him straight away so i had no choice to pick that one I want to cry i don’t know what to do he’s probably fine but i genuinely want to run back and apologise to him for leaving him i feel depressed it’s horrible

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You just have to do the best you can. If you don't like that daycare, keep looking. Get him on wait-lists places you like and move him when a spot becomes available. It's hard being away from your baby, but it is generally harder on momma than it is on baby.

it is i went to check in on him on my break he was fine so that’s okay tho I just have this like mother feeling that no one can take care of my baby like i do hahah idk if any other mothers feel like that

You’re going back to work to provide for that baby, good for you mama! It’s scary but keep your head up and do what you have to do! Can always look for new daycares while your baby attends the one you dislike and eventually move them

Thank you so much mamas❤️ we are such strong women🫶🏼

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NHS job

Anyone work for the NHS and does 12 hour shifts? How do you work around childcare and your partners job?

Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

Saying NO to buying toys etc

5 year old is getting really envious of others. He is obsessed with items that other kids have at school. I am pestered daily to buy these things in a different style when we already have 3 others. I have seen parents just buying stuff their kid likes which I don't necessarily agree with even when i can afford it. How do you deal with it?

Identity crisis?

Am I the only sahm who feels like they have lost their identity??? I don’t make money for my family, when I used to make great money. But I refuse to drop my under a year old baby off with strangers.
My husband works so much. But I have no control over bringing in money and I’m a control freak type of person! I feel l like I’m losing my grip because we are kind of broke, but day care would only eat up my income anyways! So what’s the point. I’m a workaholic and now I’m just a twitching bum.
I wish I could work from home but so far that’s a fake dream. I’m almost 9 months pp, and I just need to know these awful mood swings and depression will end soon! Send wine!

Daycare?

Thoughts on daycare?? Truly, I am SCARED to be leaving my kid for daycare. I literally do not trust anyone, not even family (they haven’t given me a reason it’s just trust issues on my end, you never know). He’s turning 3 and I’ve been a sahm the whole time but tbh my man doesn’t make enough for us to move out somewhere more calm . We live in a ‘not so safe’ area in LA and I’m just not used to living here so I just want us to give my son a better life and in order to speed up the process I would have to work.. I do lashes at home and I’d be open to take new clients so I wouldn’t have to look for work but I’m just scared to lose my license 😭

Thoughts?

your soon to be brother in law (upon inquiry) told you that only a few kids from the family were attending his wedding because they are over the age cut off..