Is it wrong to not tell family when you go into labour?

Definitely go with what you want and need. You won’t want loads of messages and you will want at least the majority of your husbands attention, so don’t want him distracted by messages either.

We didn’t tell anyone I had gone into labour, just messaged and called people once baby arrived. She was just over a week early so I also got to dodge lots of “baby here yet texts”.

I didn’t tell anybody we had gone into the hospital I think my partner told his brother that was it ! 🥰

Do whatever you want to do, it's your birth! I didn't want to tell people, only those who needed to know, but in the end my labour started in the middle of the night (so noone would be awake anyway!) and within an hour I was at the hospital in active labour - I didn't have time to message anyone! It was so nice having that surprise for everyone, I just video called and sent photos with "good morning"

If you decide to tell her just tell her neither you or your partner will be on phones and will let her know once baby arrives, put both your phones on silent, probably the easiest way to do it to avoid confrontation, these grandparents have so much entitlement these days it's so annoying

Ooh hell no! I was clear with everyone that at that point I will have enough on my mind. My husband was the point of communication for anyone, but we both agreed during labour anything could happen and his attention didn't need to be spilt between being there for me and updating whoever. Everyone was told they would be updated once we welcomed our little one into the world. We started making phone calls when they were like 3 hours old and I had had my shower and stitches sorted and was ready for talking to people. And even then it was immediate family.

This time round only nanny will be told because she is looking after our son whilst I'm in labour.

Your partner does not need his mother's anxieties as well as his own. He will need to suppress his to be there for you. I would have that conversation with her now before birth so there isn't the animosity afterwards

Nope! I didn’t tell anyone, and only told people he’d been born the day after.
I knew that they would constantly be texting for updates if I’d told them and it would stress me out.
Dreading having to tell people this time as someone will have to watch my son 🤦🏼‍♀️

I literally gave birth when I got to the hospital so didn’t have time. You will both be busy so it may not be practical anyway however your oh may need the support so I would be flexible. That said maybe you need an agreement with your mum if the birth plan goes differently.Just tell her that it will be unlikely that you will tell her and that your not making any promises as it’s likely your oh will have his phone on silent as well.

So I was induced but it took 3 days and I told close family members on the first day that I was going to be induced, they start to constantly message and when things ramped up for me I told one or two people that I’m going to be off my phone as it’s getting stressful and they understood. Tbh I wish I didn’t tell them when I was going to be induced too, but because I was so late I was getting sooooo sick of the “is the baby here yet” texts that I thought telling them my induction date would at least shut them up, but for next time I’m keeping everything to my self, plus it’ll be a nice surprise for your family to suddenly get a phone call that the baby js here. We FaceTimed my in laws after I had my c section at 3am and surprised them and it was a better feeling

We made the mistake of telling both our families when I went into labour with our daughter & it was awful, calls & texts every hour. It was stressful & didn’t make birth enjoyable. Especially with all the sly comments ‘omg she’s been in labour for hours’ ‘why hasn’t baby come yet’ ect ect.
At one point my own mother CALLED THE HOSPITAL!! Because my partner wasn’t answering her calls or texts! 😡 This time round we are not telling anyone when I go into labour and will also not be telling anyone when he is born until a good few hours afterwards.

Also my phone was on do not disturb but my husbands was on vibrate and I remember when they were fitting my epidural it’s an intense process where everyone in the room is focused and all I could hear every two seconds was his phone going off with messages even that stressed me out, I’d say stay off your phones and keep everything to yourselves because I wish I could’ve changed that for myself

I'm not telling anyone as I don't want anyone worrying, I just want to be able to let them know when baby is here! It's up to you how you feel you will labour most successfully, and if having no interruptions is what you need then you have to go for it. Maybe just be evasive about her asking for now and on the day you might be so busy you 'forget' to message her x

No one knew I was in labour until the baby was born and we were back home, much less stressful that way! X

I wish I didn't tell anyone, me and my partner were bombarded with messages and phone calls and my mum tried to sneak into the hospital after I specifically said I only wanted my partner with me, people knowing only made the whole process more stressful

I’m only telling family I’m in labour because we have a dog and my mum said she will look after her however we aren’t going to tell them the baby is here until we are settled at home.

I was induced, in hospital for 5 days and only told people when she was born.

We told a couple of people when I went into labor with my daughter and just told them we would update them as things progressed and my mom was in the room with me amd my husband when I had my daughter. This time around i plan on only telling my dad when I go onto labor as he lives out of state but plan to tell everyone else after I have my son since this Time it will only be me amd my husband in the room

I only told my mum because we went to the hospital early morning, and I needed her to come feed all my animals! She kept it to herself (and my dad) though and let us tell everyone once he was here. Second time round I plan a home birth so hopefully won't have to tell anyone

We didn’t tell anyone and it was marvelous. Just called when my little ones were born. My mom is a worry wart and if things didn’t go as planned I didn’t want her being a nervous mess. My MIL has zero boundaries so we didn’t tell them either haha

Do what'll be best for you. You're the one who will be going through it and the last thing you need during labor is extra stress. The only person we told with my second baby was my mom because she watched my toddler for us and it was so nice and relaxed. Everybody else got an announcement and pictures once baby and I were settled in. Nobody had any issue with it

I was only having my partner at the birth so we decided to not let anyone know until the baby was here. Purely as we knew both our mums would worry. Luckily I was induced at night and out little lady came at 4.20am the following morning so it was a nice surprise when they woke up x

Don’t worry about her, do your labor how you want to.

I won’t be telling anyone other than our neighbour who is looking after our dog. And possibly my boss if I’m still at work at that point. (I’m working up to my due date!) Otherwise I don’t need the stress of constant calls, text, WhatsApp’s etc. It would drive me mad and tense me up which is not ideal when I want to utilise hypnobirthing techniques. Once baby is here and healthy and I am in the right mental space to deal with a bombardment of communication, that’s when I’ll tell everyone. Parents included.

I'm planning on sending out 2 family group messages - one with parents and siblings, and one with grandparents, aunts, cousins, etc., a few weeks before our due date. In the parent and sibling message I will tell them that we'll send updates as they come, including labor, and will update as I can, and that they're welcome at the hospital once baby is here. In the larger family group I'll explain that we'll send updates as we can - including when I'm in labor and when the bby is born - but that we'll have our phones silenced in the hospital and my mom can answer questions if anyone has them. The extended family group will be allowed to visit after we've had some hours with our baby and closest family. I want them to be able to come - there's something special about meeting the new baby in the hospital - but I don't want to be bombarded or overwhelmed.