Not wanting to go out during usual bedttime routine

So my brother has invited us to his house for nibbles and cake around 5pm today for one of his kids birthdays. He live 30 mins away and our little one is usually in bed by 7:30. She will definitely sleep in the car both ways and she doesn't always drink her bottle when we are in new places.

So i don't want to go, it doesn't feel worth it to be honest. But how do i explain that without sounding like fussy first time mum? My brother has 4 kids so i thought he'd understand but their life is pretty caotic and not really routine driven.

My baby girls sleeps so well and i don't want to mess with her routine for something that's not really worth it. But why do i feel bad and self conscious??? Ahhh

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Every time I have been in a similar situation and thought ‘oh I’ll just go and wing it’ I have massively regretted it! Over tired screaming baby that then takes ages to get to bed/wakes all night!

Apologies but your probably not gonna like my comment, but I find the comment that your niece or nephew isn't worth it?? Quite harsh I'm sure you would be upset if they said the same about your baby. All children have a worth but if you don't want to go you just need to say really sorry can't make it and reschedule when convenient to you.

@Sam lol yeh i didn't mean that my niece isn't worth it, i meant that i wouldn't derail my little ones routine unless it was for a significant event like a wedding, or holiday etc. I see my nieces regularly, she's 13 and wouldn't even acknowledge that i was there because she will be having fun, therefore not worth ruining my night and potentially next day for.

@Marie, I understand where you're coming from. I'm a mum to a 13-year-old and a 7-month-old with 3 nieces who are 13 years old but I also appreciate family time and birthdays are important as well and mine would be absolutely over the moon to see the baby. Everyone is different, and I appreciate you replying to my comment and hope you all had a wonderful evening what ever you decided to do.

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