Cheating.

I'm not here to tell you what to do as we can only make our own decision , I have been through something similar apart from not having break from arguing ect I was with this man for many years and they cheated , lied , you name it. I went back because I loved him and wanted my family to be one. But it ate me everyday I slowly lost myself and how I felt towards him and you tell yourself you stay for the kids but then all they see is you unhappy. Still with solid proof he lied. He never apologised for what he put me through and how it efected me mentally , emotionally. Because they don't see they have done anything wrong even though they know it's wrong. That never changed. It got to the day where I couldn't do it anymore I couldn't live a lie, to live unhappy for the rest of my days when I knew someone out there could love me better. The day I left was the day he showed me the man I wished he could have been but that was only to pull me back in.

I left with my kids and I moved on , no relationship is perfect but I'm happier the boys are away from any negativity and the the best thing for children is to see there mum at her happiest because we are a product of our environment and if that environment is not healthy neither is it for our children and we have to think about them too.

I hope this helps. Deep down you know the answer, know there is always support and your not alone x

P.s never be afraid to be alone , I was a single mum for a while and I learnt to love myself and realise a lot and one thing is we are stronger then we think and we deserve better. ❤️👑

thank you so much for the reply 🥹 I feel somewhat ‘trapped’ I know I’m not but that’s what it feels like, I want to leave him but anytime we have that conversation he gets all confused at to why I would want to leave him as ‘he’s a good man’ which I beg to differ because he doesn’t see the hurt he has caused me previously, the pain I live with daily. He thinks because the only place he goes is work that this makes everything ok. It doesn’t because i can’t erase those messages from my mind and knew what they done, so when he touches me I see him touching her, when he takes me out to a restaurant I picture him doing that with her. It turns my stomach every day. The anxiety of when it will happen next. I also then feel sick to my stomach of the thought of ever leaving him because I’ve never loved anyone the same way I loved him. I was in a relationship previously with two children who treated me the same but I left pretty soon when both babies was very small as I knew I was never

Going to let them grow up watching me disrespected like that, but this man I can’t seem to let go of I don’t know why. I know the day will come when I will, it’s just when. Sorry for the long reply, thanks for reading ❤️

If he doesn't see now, he never will. Trust me when I say your not alone I thought the same my mind went crazy with all that he done , thinking about how , when , where. And it doesn't get any easier. He never has to feel the hurt or pain you have and he will never have to deal with it or live with it.

I left because I knew for myself the way I felt would never change its torture and it breaks you day by day. Nothing will ever be the same and doesn't mean you stop loving him but the realisation that he will never be the man you need or deserve. ❤️

Once a cheat always a cheat! I was unknowingly the other woman, it cost him his career in TV, his house, and his kids. Yet he's with someone else now and still tries it on with me. Walk away he won't change.

Just leave without telling him.

I don’t know how you got back with him after realising he was not only cheating but having sex at the time as with other women and telling you “we are still married and a family” what the hell… that’s crazy to me. Shows what type of man he is. How can you trust someone like that? There’s no point torturing yourself reading the messages. He did what he did and he’s untrustworthy. That’s obvious, you don’t have to keep reminding yourself. Staying for the family doesn’t work. I understand it’s hard to leave with culture and religion playing a part but , He doesn’t respect you by lying and being deceitful. If he was honest and apologetic and helped you get through it, that would give you support and closure. But he’s not. So he can do it again. I’m sorry

I didn’t take him back knowing he had slept with these women I didn’t find out until many months later. I will leave because it is eating me up inside it’s just finding the strength to do so.