Night / sleeping

We used a lot of taking cara babies techniques a month ago when he was a little over 8 months which is basically doing a really great night routine with lots of snuggles and massage and stuff and then putting him down awake and letting him fall asleep on his own. You go in every 5 minutes (if they’re crying) to soothe them for about 20 seconds and don’t pick them up and then leave and set the timer again if they’re still upset. He cried for a total of 15 minutes the entire first night and then slept through the night after that. I think there was one hard night a couple of weeks ago and that’s it. Keep in mind he was already a good sleeper and actually cried more when he was in our room or in our bed. I think he really appreciated not being disturbed by us making noise and stuff. So funny cuz I was so worried beforehand but he was not sleeping well and would cry in the middle of the night a lot until we did this and now he just sleeeeps and wakes up so happy 🙌

Do you follow wake windows? The reason she’s waking up an hour after bed could be what they call “false starts” which are due to being awake for too long before bed. Once we figured out her proper wake windows/especially the window before bed she stopped waking up that soon after falling asleep.

I’ve heard of wake windows , but have never really understood them . It’s not all the time she does that. It’s happened like twice . But still

that’s just not my style . Nothing against anyone who does the cry it out method but I just couldn’t do it .:/

interesting . I’ll have to try this !
I wanna put her in her own room but our house layout is so weird and I just am so nervous to have her all the way on the other side of the house (by the front door mind you).

Wake windows could really be your saving grace! Along with sleep training, but it doesn’t have to be full CIO. We did check ins.
For wake windows for a 9 month old the goal is about 3 hours of day sleep, and about 9.5 hours of wake time. You can either do 3/3hr,15 mins/3hr,15 mins OR 3/3/3hr,30 mins

That makes it so tough! He’s at the end of the hall from us too which was nerve racking for me too. I just decided that him getting better sleep was more important than my nerves haha. The monitor works great and unless you live in a dangerous neighborhood I would consider the risks to be extremely low! I did a lot of reading on how important sleep is for baby’s development and how the longer you wait to teach them good sleep skills the harder it gets (still possible though!) and also how important attachment and emotional support is too which is why we didn’t do cry it out or anything close but instead the increment of 5 minutes. Your baby knows you will come back and not abandon her but also is given the opportunity to learn sleep skills! It worked for us, I hope you find something that works for you and your baby girl! 💗

We are going through the same and I think separation anxiety made it worse. I will wait for a few more weeks to see how he evolves, my solution at this point is to co-sleep.