Feel like my baby isn't "thriving" (it's long and I'm sorry)

Does anyone else feel like they are doing it all wrong? 😥
I feel so down about parenting. My son walks but that's it. I cannot get him to eat whole food everything is still mashed up and I have to spoon feed him.
He can't say any words or even imitate me in any way, words or actions.
He doesn't grow much, even simple things like he's still got no hair. He's had 6 teeth since December last year, no new teeth have come in since.
I'm constantly worrying I'm doing something wrong or letting him down. I do everything I can, I take him groups, I make sure he's well socialised, we go our daily for walks, I talk 24/7 and leave gaps for him to reply. But the groups get me down because all the other kids do so much more than him. And one offers snack so I now don't attend that group because they will see he won't pick up food 😣
His weight gain is slow but if I put finger food out he won't even attempt to pick it up, he cries til I do it. This is partially me because of the fear of him choking. He even gags and I physically start shaking and panicking.
I spend most evenings crying and researching what more I can do 💔

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You've got this mama! My little boy is the same with food as my mum has a fear of him choking. I've been told he won't go to school eating solids so not to force it! He can eat solids but usually refuses we blend most things down.

Have you got little flashcards for him. Again my LB has been slow to talk he's just very quiet. But has now started saying things like hiya, baba & cat. Cats his favourite from thr flashcards!

Mama, I’m 100% sure none of it is down to your parenting. Your little boy is exactly where he is meant to be. These babies all develop at totally different rates. I can guarantee you some of the other mums at those groups would’ve been worried about things their child does/doesn’t do too. For example, my little boy will not sit and engage in a group. He doesn’t do as he’s told like the others, I.e “put this in the bag” “put this on your head” etc. he doesn’t respond or anything, just does his own thing. He also gags at lots of foods still. Please don’t feel like it’s anything you’ve done. You sound like you’re doing an amazing job! This is a tough job, give yourself some credit, you’re doing great 😊Please message me if you want to chat xx

Hey do not worry, there are averages and he is still well within them! No two babies are the same! Am 45 and my baby is 18 months and my number 8 pregnancy. Was told my eggs were too old to conceive a healthy baby. She has been ahead of all milestones Which is challenging. But if she has always wanted to be on the move and was active early on, she was skinnier for it and was given shit by HV. She is still 9.3 kg for maybe 80 cm. She is still wearing 9-12 m clothes if not smaller..( positive? Save ££) I am learning that this is her normal and I shouldn't compare it with chubbier babies! She is happy and she does things her way. We are not all built same way. In 5 years, there won't be a difference. Breathe and stop worrying! If you are worried, ask you GP for a review... But plus don't compare. I know how hard it is but every baby is different and averages of milestones are wide for that reason..xxx

It sounds like you are doing everything right.
My LG has learned lots of vocabulary from Miss Rachel videos on YouTube.
You can also use flash cards and say the words when you show the picture. Point on everything you pass by when you walk from one room into the other or when you are out and about. If it helps my youngest brother didn't speak until he was 3yo and now he doesn't stop talking 😁
No advice on the food. I just would offer some solids alongside the pure and maybe you could model eating solids for him.
I hope he will make some progress soon so you can stop worrying but as I said from what I read it sounds like you are doing an amazing job 😀

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