Child maintenance

So me and my son’s dad have been split up for about 3 months now. He pays be 40 a week which I thought was reasonable, he doesn’t keep him over night and only sees him once a week and that’s for roughly 1-2 hours. He claims he makes about 700 a week (he’s a pathological liar) and is staying with his mum. Is it rude for me to ask him to contribute more? I’m currently pregnant with our second.

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Girl he better take that baby half the time . Thats the problem with dudes, we gotta work too they can make time for their kid just as much as us moms do ! & as far as financially if you need more for the baby then yes if not no . Just my opinion

he never helped when we were together, I also don’t trust him as he doesn’t hear when our little one wakes up z

its 20% of his wages hes supposed to pay

He should be paying closer to $140 a week!

So I did a UK calculation recently for my friend and her ex husband is on £40k a year and he should for 1 over night a week paying £400 a month so I definitely think if he's earning that much you're entitled to way more

Is he self-employed or employed by someone? If he's an employee, I definitely suggest going through CMS, you can still sort out the payment yourself but it covers your arse if its done through them

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NHS job

Anyone work for the NHS and does 12 hour shifts? How do you work around childcare and your partners job?

He has no respect for anything to do with me.

Husband and I decided to separate 3 days ago. I've been sleeping on the floor in the kids room, and we both have to stay in the same apartment for a while. He wont stop pushing little things and I am reaching my limit. Photos in comments

Toddlers

How often are your toddlers asking for food? My oldest who is 3 just finished a whole plate of food and not even 10 minutes later he’s requesting more food. I know he’s going through a growth spurt, but how do you respond to this.

Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

Identity crisis?

Am I the only sahm who feels like they have lost their identity??? I don’t make money for my family, when I used to make great money. But I refuse to drop my under a year old baby off with strangers.
My husband works so much. But I have no control over bringing in money and I’m a control freak type of person! I feel l like I’m losing my grip because we are kind of broke, but day care would only eat up my income anyways! So what’s the point. I’m a workaholic and now I’m just a twitching bum.
I wish I could work from home but so far that’s a fake dream. I’m almost 9 months pp, and I just need to know these awful mood swings and depression will end soon! Send wine!

Saying NO to buying toys etc

5 year old is getting really envious of others. He is obsessed with items that other kids have at school. I am pestered daily to buy these things in a different style when we already have 3 others. I have seen parents just buying stuff their kid likes which I don't necessarily agree with even when i can afford it. How do you deal with it?