Daycare guilt?

Any others feel this way? I have a 6 mo and a 2 yr old. Things are hectic, and i can never give both of them the attention/energy i want. After yrs of waiting, I FINALLY found a daycare for the 2 yr old, and think hooray i can spend quality time with the baby now. but then mom guilt sets in and reminds me that they're only this age once and I should be spending time with the 2 yr old as much as possible since im on mat leave, not spending an arm and a leg on daycare to prioritize the baby (and to give myself an easier day)

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Absolutely. Im you you in there

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Mama you deserve an easier day... motherhood doesn't need to be that difficult. Also I'm pretty sure that your toddler is enjoying daycare, making new friends and learning new things every day.

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I have my 2y in 2 days a week since I'm on mat leave. Then he still gets to socializt and make friends as well but I'm still getting tons of time with him. When we started it was heartbreaking thoug

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I know mom guilt is a real struggle. But think of it this way. Your 2yo is having fun and making friends while you get some rest and can perform your mom duties better for both of them. When he gets home he is all played out and ready for quality time with his family. You are doing great!

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I’m going to have to send my 4 month old to daycare because live in nannies have so many social problems

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