advice please

I don’t have a good relationship with my in laws because my husband has always told our problems and involved them and it’s made it sour……
Even then I’ve tried so hard and I’m so tired….
Today we all went out to eat my mother in law had 1 other daughter in law and she only acknowledges her I don’t exists when she’s around….
Not a single person talked to me I was sat on my own because husband never came and they only acknowledged me daughter….
My MIL and her other DIL and SIL
Sat there talking slyly and making comments
Honestly there’s so much to it I cba typing
I hate them so much they treat me like shit and I can’t deal with my in laws I hate them all I hate his family and I hate him
I just want to block them all and tell them to fxxxxxxx leave me alone I can’t take it nomore

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Don’t see them if he wants to go can go alone. Just talk to him say that u don’t feel that was treated right

Sorry to hear that happened to you.no woman should face this crap specially from your inlaws.that is un acceptable. i can imagine your pain and anger
.First of all you should never go there without your husband cuz it's his family not yours.2nd thing is you have to talk to your man that this is not good whatever is between us should b sorted between us .a man should act like a man .you have to talk to him cuz that's not right for your mental health and for your kids .my advice is don't go to their house if you do not have respect somewhere why bother to go there. complete cut off .your marriage is with your husband not with his so called family.dont go.stand on your grounds.

Honestly that’s all I’m trying to do is stay away I don’t even want to go to their house not even with my husband as he never sticks up for me
I spoke up for myself today and told my mil that jist because someone wears a scarf and prays namaaz doesn’t make them good
This backbiting acting sly and being nasty will get people like that in jahannam
He kicks off with me when I don’t go to his families house and family get togethers but I don’t enjoy myself and I’m always coming home crying I’m so fed up

May allah make it easy for you. Men will be men they don’t understand anyones emotions. Good on u for speaking up. I just simply refuse to go to gatherings and their home for my own sanity. Sly remarks and digs get me down and we end up arguing. People feel like they should have a input in everything. They forget they have their own daughters!

sister let them say whatever Allah knows everything .bit if I would be on your place I would never go whatever my husband will say if you can't say strait on his face just make an excuse. but that is not good May Allah make easy on you .that low life things what they hv been saying Allah give them hadayt to.

Salaam sis, sorry you are feeling like this. If they can't respect you, stop yourself from seeing them and then seeing your child.
Message me if you feel to speak to someone xx

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go
to hers or her she could go to a cafe that has closed doors not sat outside a cold pub and it’s a bit of a rough pub in my opinion

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Partner works incredibly long hours, how much do they help out?

I'm struggling. Have been for a while. I've had one break from parenting my daughter, that was for 3 hours in December when I left her with her dad.

She's 14 months old and I'm just tired. I've done every night by myself. He's out of bed at 4am and doesn't get home until 7-9pm. He drives for work, very physically tiring.
On the weekends he was doing 6 days, one weekend day off, but now has both off.

He doesn't sit on the floor and play with her, he doesn't read to her because he says she doesn't have the patience.
He will pick her up and hold her whilst he's cooking.

Recently I've been "snappy" with him.
He got back from the mechanic last weekend, she was getting onto the sofa and he put his headphones on and started to watch Netflix on his phone.
The same day I told him I was going to run her bath and to watch her whilst she was still eating, he fell asleep on the sofa.

Today he went to football after going shopping, so was out 1-3 and then from 4-8.
He got back and I was snappy.

"I don't get why you're so snappy with me"

I said - Probably because I haven't had a break since December.

"Do you think I don't know you haven't had a break. I haven't had a break", "I just won't go to work, I'll sit at home all day".

Then "do you think I like not having a connection to my child"... But that's on him? He never sits to play with her. He "doesn't see the point". He's stated that this age is boring to him.

Since she's been born, he has been to a friend's once a month. Football - He stopped going for 7months, but has been the last two weekends.

Are these not breaks?

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If your partner works ridiculously long hours, how much do they look after your child? Do you ever get a break?