Husband was yelling at me so I yelled back
I am literally shaking. I was calling him out on something he did wrong and he hates being called out when he does something wrong, but I couldn’t let it go because it was too egregious not to address. I was addressing it in a calm way that was very matter-of-fact.
He started raising his voice at me, and I asked him calmly several times to stop raising his voice at me. Every time he lowered his voice he would just start raising it and getting loud with me again and finally, i snapped. I shouted over him and told him to shut the f up.
I lost all control and told him I hate every minute of living with him and he needs to call his attorney tomorrow to start working on his divorce paperwork. I told him I am not going to keep living with someone who yells at me. Tomorrow is my baby shower and I told him he better not come and that I will tell everyone at my baby shower that he was uninvited because he can’t restrain himself from yelling at his pregnant wife. I told him that I am moving out tomorrow after the shower.
The saddest part is, I think I really will. I’m 30 weeks pregnant and don’t want to spend another day with this narcissist who is constantly gaslighting me and can’t own up to his mistakes.
I went to the hospital on Thursday this week for decreased fetal movement after another very stressful fight with him. Fortunately the baby was fine, but he hasn’t asked one single time how the baby is since then. Hasn’t asked me if I or the baby need anything. Isn’t interested when I tell him to come sit next to me so he can feel the baby move.
What am I even doing here? Having a kid with this person was such a terrible idea.
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One of my favorite sayings is that just because we have spent a long time making a mistake doesn't mean it's ever too late to fix it. So if you feel like you need to leave this person, do it, run, get your tribe to help you out of there. Just because you have his child is not mean he can treat you poorly, if anything he should be treating you like a goddess. Never stick around for a child, that is always a mistake. I'm so sorry you have to go through this but I hope that there are greener pastures ❤️
Better now than waiting till he raises his voice for you in front of your children
I completely understand. I left an abusive relationship 2 months ago with a narcissist and it was the best thing I ever could have done for the baby and I.
I don't think leaving is the saddest part. Staying would be. It truly sounds like you'll be better off without him (and so will your baby).
Things were getting bad between me and my little ones dad, we had been together for 8 years the little one is 12 months we ended up getting in to a big fight because I told him I couldn't live with him anymore the police ended up having to get involved and they removed him, your emotions will be all over the place it is hard to think how bad things can get with someone you once loved, but I'm out now, it's only been a few days but I'm trying to be strong for my little one xx
So my husband was the same way when I was pregnant is was interesting in how I felt how the baby was doing and once the baby was born forget about it he never helped my my son is almost 9 months now and we are on thin ice that this point i think we are better off separated not to mention he has a huge problem with alcohol
My x was the same way and I'll be honest if you make that decision it will be hard at first and it can be hard just to rest your mind but my opinion is if your being treated like that and he makes you feel like he don't care it will only get worse and worse. I was with a narcissist and nothing he did was ever rong and when it came down to addressing things, it was allways my fault he was never at fault for nothing. I lost myself in the relationship now he's moved on with other kids on the way. Trust me listen to your gut it's allways right. You will be OK in time. I remember this one time allways do when I feel like texting due to loneliness...I was doing the school run picking the kids up and he was walking next to me in public just out side of school putting me down calling me names I was trying my best not to cry. And he just keeps going and I said please be quite please. He never did. Keep your head up your not alone xx
Cortisol it's not healthy for you and the baby 💕
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