Mamas with depression, anxiety, and other mental health disorders

Just want to Vent!!!

I am 7 weeks pregnant and have 6 other kids, I am currently sick as a dog went to the hospital yesterday morning and I have bronchitis. My Husband is not helping at all. I have been sick all week but Friday and Saturday were my worse days. I work Friday come home and take care of the kids and make dinner and all that normal stuff. I ask my husband if I could lay down because I didn't feel good at all, and of course he already had plans to go out with his buddies. So I have the younger kids lay down and I lay down, but I'm up all night coughing so hard I'm throwing up. He doesn't come home until 3am. And then wants to tell me to quiet my cough so I don't wake the kids 🤣 Well about 6:30am I decide I can't do it anymore and I go to ER I'm there from 7-11 I come home and he wants to take a nap cuz he didn't get much sleep. This man falls asleep around 2pm and he is still asleep and it is 6:19am the next day. I am still not feeling good I just wanna lay around today, but I know good and well I won't be able to. I wish I could just pack up and leave since I'm basically a single mom anyways, but I just don't have any where to go and with the little one on the way, I don't know what to do. I have asked him to help me more because I am already a high risk pregnancy and I haven't been feeling pregnant anymore since I've been sick, but he says he will help more but never does. I don't know what to do

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Ugh.... I know this is tough. I just don't get it... why are men this way??? I think most mamas (not saying all) have experienced this at some point in time. I know I have... I just ALWAYS encourage myself.... and say to myself "you got this"... yes , its hard... but these kids need me... yes, I'm sick, tired and exhausted, but I will find the strength to do what I can. The kids will appreciate it in the future... you may think they are not paying attention to the behaviors of their parents, but they are. They know MAMA is going to give it her ALL. Mom's have super powers and we are always going to make a way. I hope your husband comes around and helps you out. It's truly not fair that he goes out and leaves you alone with the kids especially if you're not feeling well... and pregnant... I know it's tough and the load may get heavy but please hang in there Mama. You got this!!!

Is he possibly willfully not helping because he knows he doesn't have to because you will do it for him? If so have another conversation and outline your consequences. It's not fair on you to constantly deal with this. I'd also get on the list for income based housing if you can because it can take a large chunk of time to find available housing.

This probably isn't helpful but I'm just curious, why have unprotected sex with him if you know he is like this? He can't have changed from an amazing partner/dad in the space of 7 weeks?

it does say that there is 6 other kids in the house, so maybe they have been together for a long time and he has changed over time.

Has he changed over time? How recent was this change?

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Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

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