Is anyone on the other side of the 4 month sleep regression?

My baby was an amazing sleeper. Up until 3.5 months she would sleep through the night and would wake up once every week or 10 days at 3 or 4 am. Since then (now 4.5 months) it’s once or twice per night and it takes FOREVER to get her back to sleep. Does it ever get better? I love her so much but also this is truly affecting my mental health.
I am hoping to be able to get through this without sleep training. Does it ever go back to normal? I do let her self soothe when she wakes up, sometimes she’ll fall right back to sleep but if she starts crying properly I do pick her up. Am I setting her up for failure?

PS- I get that is not a regression per se but a developmental leap. I use the term regression as it’s the way it’s generally referred to. I’m sleep deprived and not in the mood for obvious clarifications.

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We've just come out of it and she's back to sleeping great again!
Its hard but will be over soon x

We just came out of it last week (knocks on wood). I will say ours was not TERRIBLE. She went from sleeping 12+ hours through the night to waking at 10-11 hours screaming. And a few nights she had a middle of the night wake that we were able to just put a pacifier in her mouth for. The worst part for us was naps which she would fight and SCREAM to go down and then wake up after 8 to 15 minutes. This past week she is back to sleeping 12+ hours at night and napping for about 30-40 mins at a time and sometimes I can even lay her down with out a drawn out rocking process. It was soooo frustrating but IT WILL GET BETTER! ♥️

how long did it take? And was it sudden that she did or started getting better little by little?

ours also started with naps and I thought that was it. Then night wakings started happening. It’s exhausting.

It was literally one night she was waking every 3 hours as she had been during the leap then the next night slept all night again!! Bliss! 🤣🤣🤣

I hope this comes to us soon! Thoughts and prayers 😅

I safely cosleep, so if any of my kids experienced this, I wasn't aware 😂🤷🏾‍♀️

A lot of bed sharing/co sleeping babies wake up and go through this. You are one lucky mama! Your baby perhaps wouldn’t wake up even if sleeping in a crib.

I hope it gets better for all of us!

Quite possibly. It's amazing how all babies are indeed different. I hope you will see the end of this leap soon.

I wasn't insinuating that cosleeping would combat/stop this leap as all babies go through it. How it is handled and how long it lasts are the differences.

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I think Motherhood has made me more bitter than I realized…

This is such a ramble but I don’t know where else to put it all.

I’m four months in and I don’t really have hobbies right now. I don’t do anything for myself except maybe doomscrolling or listening to a podcast while I breastfeed my baby. I used to craft and have game nights with friends. Activities that usually are at least 2 hour stretches. Now if I have an hour free my mind immediately goes to baby, or doing something in the house for baby.

And I thought I didn’t mind. Like I knew postpartum could be very mentally consuming. But I think it’s altering how I view people around me and it’s prodding at my relationship with my husband.

He spends most of his time making food for us, looking after our dogs, playing with the baby, ect. But he still has time for his hobby. Spends maybe an hour a night on it. Even adapted to using a bot for shopping for his hobby after a certain incident where we had to have a heart to heart after he left me home alone with the baby for hours during a busy workday (I work from home) to shop for his hobby.

And yet there’s like this little green eyed monster in me that rages every time I know he’s running off to start up the bot. Even though I’m the reason he does it this way.

We took a family trip last weekend to see his best friend and their kids and let them meet the baby. He brought the laptop. He’s always brought a laptop on trips and it’s never been a problem to me before. But one night we both woke up while the baby was still asleep, and he wandered out of the room. I tried to fall back asleep but couldn’t. So I went to the kitchen to try having something warm to drink to settle me. And he was there at the table running the bot from his laptop. I flipped out at him. But there really wasn’t reason to. It’s not like I needed help with the baby and he was ignoring me. He wasn’t avoiding our friends. He was just awake and unable to sleep and found something to do with his time. Yet my snap reaction was “why the hell would you do this on a family trip?”

I don’t know what it is. Maybe it’s the less complete sleep from baby’s middle of the night feed? My brain being just consumed by baby? Maybe I’m not as over that shopping incident as I thought? But I’m just so annoyed at his hobby right now. The green eyed monster thinks “you could be using that time differently” but realistically to do what exactly??? Stare at our baby in the dark???

I spent probably an hour apologizing to him after I snapped. And he’s of course hurt and frustrated because I said some very mean things in the moment.

I don’t want to be this jealous, angry person. But I also don’t know how to find time for myself in this right now outside of basic hygiene. It’s like I’ve forgotten how to be myself, even if just for an hour.

Maybe I need a therapist.

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